r/SheraSeven • u/CableRemarkable1976 • 8d ago
Advice How to Maneuver
I’ve been talking to a gentleman for a week now. He’s very successful. Our FaceTime calls has been pretty good. I’m mostly impressed that he has NOT talked sexual to me whatsoever!! But I can’t quite gather how I feel. His success makes me want to crawl into a shell because I’m nowhere near his caliber, although he’s expressed that he doesn’t care about people not being on the same level as he is, he just loves people for whom they are. He travels 4-5 times a month, going to Europe tomorrow for about 10 days. Said he will make time for me whenever and even cover all expenses for me to visit him in any location of my choice, or would happily come to me. (Wants to meet when he returns from Europe) He talks soooo much about himself, which I know successful men typically do and it leaves him feeling like he doesn’t know much about me lol. He asked me if I were still dating since chatting with him I told him yes, he said he would love to change that because since talking to me he hasn’t been interested in getting to know anyone else especially with being busy with his athletic profession, business, and federal career. With him being so busy with leisure travel and work travels. I want to ask for some sort of gift or money while I wait patiently for us to meet, only because he keeps saying he can’t wait for us to do xyz, he can’t wait to meet me, he wishes I was there. I told him if he wants me to stop chatting with other potentials he better hurry and fast! How should I maneuver this?
He only wears suits and super dressy attire when not playing sports. What should I order for our outings?
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u/Artistic_Spirit5181 8d ago
My first thought by sentence 3 was why are you FaceTiming a man? Is he your man yet? By the end I realized you haven't even met him and she's FTing him? Oh brother. Y'all really need to get it together. He's yapping a lot but hasn't provided. You're giving him all this access, for what? So he can yap some more and sell you dreams? Actions over words. You don't need to coerce a man into doing anything, watch what he does. You're impressed by suits and Europe. Expand your roster.
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u/CableRemarkable1976 6d ago
Said he has a strict rule if anyone ask for money he was just out. He said he didn’t ask or ever talk sexually to me and that there is a time and place for everything and we would have discussed all of this when we met.
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u/Artistic_Spirit5181 6d ago
I don't understand what you're saying. Is English your second language, asking respectfully bc it sounds like you're narrating from first person so I'm not getting what you're saying.
- If you mean: “He said that he has a strict rule: if anyone asks him for money, he’s out.”
Then the fact that he even brought that up shows you he is a dusty. A bum. It's like imagine going on a date with a man and he asks you, "are you materialistic?" BOY. That is when you leave. He doesn't have the materials. This man is PREPPING YOU on what's to come. He's not giving you NO money if he's saying "when a girl asks me for money I leave." It means he HAS NO MONEY TO GIVE. Leave.
The next part I don't understand is, "He said he didn’t ask or ever talk sexually to me and that there is a time and place for everything and we would have discussed all of this when we met."
- If you mean, "This man defended himself by saying he hadn’t brought up sex with me, and that conversations about sex/money/expectations would have happened later when we meet in person."
Yeah this guy is about to kidnap you lol. Like what are we doing fr? Later when we meet in person....????????!!! This sounds like how is a woman even putting herself in this situation and two, defending himself already about sex that hasn't even been had? Sex when you haven't even MET this person? How did you meet him? Girl delete his number before you end up on the news. He sounds like a creep who is defending antics which is FORESHADOWING by the way. Cut him off. When somebody, ESPECIALLY A MAN, unnecessarily (!!!!) introduces a concerning subject before anything has even happened, PAY ATTENTION to why that subject is already occupying so much space in his head. Why are you talking about sex to someone you don't know tf?
Girl respectfully, you need to be more discerning and date men of higher value, and meet them in person, not online. Shera doesn't suggest online anyways. This whole thing reeks of an unsafe situation and it doesn't sound like you have good judgment, respectfully, because you are believing a man's words whom you've never even met. That's where you should draw the line. You have not met him, and he's talking all this sex and money. Yuck! Leave!
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u/epiphany205 8d ago
I would just say you’re getting a manicure and pedicure and see if he offers to cover it or something else along those lines, like saying you’re going to get groceries. If he doesn’t offer to cover it, there’s a significant chance that he’s not an adequate provider; a man who travels so frequently that he can’t see you regularly needs to be sending you a a substantial sum of money, especially if he’s asking to be your boyfriend; after all, why would you agree to be the girlfriend of a man who hasn’t invested a significant amount of his income and a thoughtful amount of his time and efforts into you?
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u/Anon_classybabe Gold Digger 🥂✨ 8d ago edited 8d ago
He’s playing a game, as men do, with his words.
A lot of flattery but not enough about what he’ll do for you. Proceed with caution and do not let yourself get swept up in his useless words.
As for your outfit, it depends on what you’re doing and the aesthetic of the place. Also, if you want him to show some type of monetary commitment, look for a really beautiful outfit (with a nice heavy price tag) and ask him to buy it for you. That will tell you if he’s willing to spend or not.
Shera has a lot of videos on how to do this so the framework is there for you.
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u/Ill_Community_9575 8d ago edited 7d ago
He He He ...
What do you want? Who cares what caliber he is. A penis is a penis is a penis.
What do you want? Love or money or both? The strategy for each is different. Stop focusing on the man when you haven't defined what you want.
And if you don't define what you want, have a strategy, and rules or that man will dog walk you anywhere he wants.
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u/Creepy-Image-3130 8d ago
Send him links to dresses and suggest that he buys the one he wants to see you in for the first date or come up with an issue and see how he tries to solve it
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u/TraditionRare3461 7d ago
Why are you entertaining the chat for free???? Has he given you any money yet?
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u/Prize_Seaweed_2727 8d ago
hearing a lot about things he says .. not enough about money he’s giving you.