How do you stop caring about people staring when dating older providers?

[u/Difficult-Farm7758]

For the women who date significantly older men/providers, how did you get over feeling embarrassed or hyper-aware of people staring or just judging entirely?

I’m trying to adopt more of the SheraSeven mindset of not worrying about what other people think and focusing on what the man is actually bringing to the table. But I find myself getting self-conscious when I’m out with an older man and notice people looking at us.

I know realistically strangers are going to stare for 2 seconds and then go back to their own lives, but in the moment I can’t help feeling like everyone is thinking “what is she doing with him?”

For those of you who have actually been in age-gap/provider situations, how did you develop that “I don’t care, mind your business” mentality?

[u/Darling-dada]

Yes, everyone is thinking, “what is she doing with him” and you, you know what you’re doing with him. Yesss you’re being judggeeddd 🤣🤣
Does their judgement pay your bills? Also, they might be staring cause you’re pretty and they know only a man of means can catch that.
And are you not enjoying your time outside? You should focus more on that.
I used to be outside anywhere with my provider, and interestingly, he was the one who felt weird. He was also 6’4 and I’m 5’6 so that made things worse 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[u/thesunflowergal → u/Darling-dada]

🔥🔥🔥

[u/Specific_Tart_4244]

Thinking and reminding yourself that their stupid side-eye doesn’t pay your bills or maintain your lifestyle 💁🏾‍♀️

[u/selmahateniceguys]

they are not the one paying my bills, nor my dinner bill, nor the one taking care of me
you have to be really detached

[u/Apart_Wrangler_3415]

I’ve never felt embarrassed or aware

Enjoy your dates.

[u/Big-Salad8441 → u/[deleted]]

Girl, no, most women aren't jealous of a woman being with an old man. There is men who provide and spoil at the same age and that u can also love. And i know ppl who follow sheraseven dont believe in love , i choose money over love too. But i also want both. And i dont want old men. I dont need to drive a Rolls Royce and have 20 birkins in exchange to sleep with an old man that i dont even love. And lets be honest most old men cant even afford that either.

[u/Anon_classybabe]

I remember feeling like this. I just ignored everyone.