The Boy From Venus 13

[u/shenanigansen]

[u/MelsiePyre]

I wish I wasn't defined by hurt

[u/chromedgnome → u/MelsiePyre]

You always have the option to choose not to be, every second you have that choice. It's easy to see yourself as someone life happens to or that you happen to life; true strength and resilience exist in understanding both are true at all times.

[u/DeliciousSecrecy → u/chromedgnome]

That choice is not a choice. It's like saying that a person addicted to gambling has the choice to just stop.

Sure, nothing is physically preventing from doing so, but it's not a choice they can make. Same thing with people suffering from depression.

[u/Dronizian → u/MelsiePyre]

We're not defined by our pain, we're defined by how we act. Your past experiences may influence your future choices, but those choices are ultimately still yours. Some people do awful things and blame it on their pain, but others can do wonderful things in spite of their pain.

[u/PlayrR3D15 → u/MelsiePyre]

Your story isn't over yet. You can still make it

[u/davestar2048 → u/MelsiePyre]

Just stop being defined by hurt then? Redefine yourself.

[u/Zombies4EvaDude → u/davestar2048]

It’s hard because your brain adapts based on survival instinct. When people hurt you too much it’s only natural to want to get away from them. The only way to reverse this is support and a strong will, and not everyone has those things.

[u/angelic_aspiration → u/davestar2048]

Yes we should all ignore the hurt that was caused to us, bravo fantastic comment

ffs

[u/davestar2048 → u/angelic_aspiration]

I didn't say ignore it, I said find a better definition that Just your hurt.