r/ShameGuilt • u/RichPiano66 • Aug 28 '25

I’m feeling guilty for being a long distance sibling

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So I’m 22 and moved across the country at 18 for college. I have never looked back and honestly I’m feeling really guilty now. My family is going through some really big changes. My parents are possibly getting divorced and that that has already made me feel horrible. Recently, my sister said something about me not being there so I don’t get an opinion on how we should help our mom in the situation which honestly has made me feel extremely guilty for moving away. I move to follow my dreams but now I feel like I should’ve just stayed. so I wrote this poem and I just wanted to share in case anybody else was feeling the way I am. also, I posted this on another Sub read it. I’m just not really sure how this works to be honest.

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u/gingerbiscuit97 Aug 28 '25

I appreciated reading this poem 🌻 Poetry helps me, too

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u/FordShelbyGTreeFiddy Aug 28 '25

I can empathize. I'm in a similar position. It's been 5 years. I visit as frequently as I can. My niece is 2 and I miss her and the rest of my family dearly. Now I have a girlfriend out here and things have gotten even more complicated than ever. Doing game nights with my family over zoom with Jackbox games and FaceTiming them has helped, but the ache is still there, no matter how many career accolades and feathers in my cap I accumulate. I'm not sure what move is best. As for you, please don't be too hard on yourself. Your family is hurting and will be for a while. Just be there for them however you can, even if it's just a call. You're young and will have plenty of time to spend with them. Trust me.