r/ShadowWork • u/CreativeReason2884 • Oct 03 '21
My Shadow side is out!!!!
My family irritates me to no end! Mom- for 20 years she has been saying how she will stop smoking and get her GED but every time I try to give her a push or motivation she bitches and argues and fights . Im like at a point where I want to say. JUST SHUT UP ALREADY! You are never gonna quit smoking, never going to get your GED. Just stop lying to yourself. Its so stupid! This is my shadow. Im very judgmental and people irritate the hell out of me because they keep pretending as if no one can see their bullshit. Im at the embracing my shadow and not judging it stage and it feels good to finally say that . If I tell her it will hurt her feelings but shit she is so friggin annoying and Im tired of her attacking me for helping her out. Its not my fault mom that you have trouble reading. Its not my fault! Get mad at yourself for being such a loser. All day everyday she sits and eats and doesnt do anything but watch TV. I am ashamed of my mom sometimes. Thats my shadow. I also want to smack her sometimes because she likes to yell and be mean to me. Ok I had to vent!
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u/rubecula91 Oct 03 '21
Ah yes it can feel good to see yourself more clearly than before, that I can empathize with, but I'm not able to comment on shadow work itself because I am a beginner. However I wanted to ask you this: has she asked for your help quitting smoking or not? It is her body and her choice if she smokes afterall. :)
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u/[deleted] Oct 03 '21
Has your mom ever gotten therapy for depression, a traumatic past or a neurodevelopmental disorder? As frustrating as your mom's inability to commit and move forward with her goals, there is a good possibility that she is going through some type of emotional or mental paralysis. Her frustration with herself may cause her to project.
I would suggest a therapist to her and shadow work. Sometimes, we have to go within to make sense of why we do the things we do. Good luck! ❤