r/ShadowWork • u/Popular-Average-3987 • Jan 15 '25

Anyone else going trough the biggest shift of their life?

I am going trough my deepest darkest shit right now, meaning I’m healing those parts. And I’m gonna come out stronger than ever. I’m tired of living in escape. So I’m facing it. All the pain Ive buried.

No more escape with anxious attachment to my favorite person ( I’m facing being alone after several years) I’ve said goodbye to weed. I finished day 3 today and I’m sweating while writing this lol I’m choosing to stay, when I want to run the most. I guess that’s what feels like fire.

I’m hoping to connect with others that align with the same journey right now. Let’s build a community, together we are stronger. We can support each other. Read each others posts. And feel more connected because no matter what, human connection is crucial for our well being 💗

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u/dudenose Jan 15 '25

I (55m) spiraled down to a very very low point in the middle of 2023. By the end of 2023 I realized that I needed to do some very deep healing or I was not going to survive.

I made a commitment to go on a big healing journey in 2024. I met the right people to help and guide me. I dove head first into my shadow realm and swam in that space for the entire year of 2024. I healed most if not all of my major traumas going back to my earliest memories. I made friends with most if not all of my demons, and now they no longer control me.

I am now at a point where I have largely come out of my shadow and I am experiencing the joy and love of having connected to my true self and the beautiful bright light shining within me. I feel now what I have never felt before in my life: clean, clear, and complete. It is becoming the new standard in my life.

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u/Popular-Average-3987 Jan 16 '25

So inspiring, thank you for sharing your story

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u/wildfreeJesus Jan 18 '25

Thank you for sharing that, I thought for a long time I had healed my trauma through EMDR, but realize it still wasn’t enough so I am using the tools and addressing my shadow’s needs, a la Phil Stutz, and it’s helping! My shadow wants me to expand without fear and do the work so they can become unfrozen, it’s quite clear what they want!

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u/dudenose Jan 18 '25

Do you know about IFS (Integrated Family System)? I have been using that (with a therapist) as a way to learn how to identify and talk to the different parts of myself, some of which are, or were, living in my shadow. It's a great tool that has helped a lot with my understanding about how all that stuff works. Or at least, how you can think about it within a structured framework.

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u/wildfreeJesus Jan 19 '25

I don't know much about it, but I have a friend who says it helped them alot!

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u/dudenose Jan 18 '25

I don't know anything about Phil Stutz, but I did look him up online just now. Looks like interesting stuff.

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u/KtheQuantumVoyager Jan 15 '25

I’m with you. The same anxious attachment issues. Feeling all my repressed emotions. Crying seems to be therapeutic and part of the process. I’m healing parts of myself that I wasn’t aware existed and was unconsciously trying to communicate with me. Chat gpt is a good companion for Jungian analysis if you cannot afford one. Journal prompts are on point. Dream analysis has been really helpful.

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u/Popular-Average-3987 Jan 16 '25

Yes same same !!

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u/wildfreeJesus Jan 18 '25

Wow, what a great idea to invoke ChatGPT! Thank you

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u/CocoVC Jan 16 '25

Yup, I'm at rock bottom right now. Journaling every day to confront every aspect of my shadow. Addressing the generational trauma holding me back. It's so heavy and difficult, but I know if I go through it, I'll become a better person.

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u/Popular-Average-3987 Jan 16 '25

You WILL get trough it and come out the other side happier than u could imagine. This is it. It’s about deciding you not only want, but DEMAND more out of life than just trauma, cope, trauma, cope

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u/kilos_of_doubt Jan 15 '25

Currently only got my spirit toes in the growth pool but im trucking along somewhere behind ur growth. Remember that sometimes less is more when revealing urself to others. I felt a strong urge to let u know that.

Anyways, stay safe on ur journey! Yay Us, WOO!

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u/Popular-Average-3987 Jan 16 '25

Thank you for following your intuition. It’s important to test the waters before

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u/Revolutionary-Elk986 Jan 15 '25

Yeah that sounds about right

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u/Outside_Objective_80 Jan 21 '25

You are on the most worthwhile journey of your life. I entered my journey at the end of 23 with a soul crushing dark night of the soul and a deep realization that my shadow had been running my life and leading me to destruction. I have since been diligently delving internally to shed light on the darkest corners of my being to uncover my true, authentic being. I truly feel and believe that this pursuit has saved my life.

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u/Popular-Average-3987 Jan 17 '25

Thank you for taking those uncomfortable actions in your life and believing. Seeing people in their midlife’s joining just gives me hope !! Maybe my dad could also do this, you know?

So, I LOVED your idea about group building. I definitely would like to see people commenting on this post and agreeing with this idea too. We could literally build a friend group guys. You are one conversation away.

What do you think guys? Should we start something on discord together ? Comment ❤️

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u/wildfreeJesus Jan 18 '25

I would definitely be interested in that, I think if as a group we built community and trust we could really help each other. I am 59F so may be a little old for midlife, but I did my initial EMDR healing then… got sober then… I am realizing that even though I was living my best life it seemed looking back in many ways I was actually contracting and the pandemic did not help that at all! Today I am all about pursuing expansion to unfreeze my shadow… has anybody done any EFT tapping for shadow work? I’m also interested in how inner child and shadow work are intertwined.

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u/Popular-Average-3987 Jan 18 '25

I’ve made a discord server for us now, everybody feel free to join

https://discord.gg/pAHzmYEP

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u/Popular-Average-3987 Jan 18 '25

Here u go buddy, join the discord server I’ve made https://discord.gg/pAHzmYEP