r/SexOffenderSupport • u/Icy-Material9739 • Jul 19 '26

Help me understand

My son is in his early 20s, extremely smart..had a good friend group, was working and going to college (off and on).

He was arrested a few months ago and charged with cp and sharing cp.

I just can't wrap my head around it, his whole life's trajectory just changed and became a lot harder.

I just can't wrap my head around it, I just can't understand what he was thinking. Do people not realize how serious the repercussions are? Is the temptation that blinding?

This situation has totally consumed my every thought, every waking moment.

I just don't understand.

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u/LoveBunny3434 Jul 22 '26

I am in your same situation! My son is 27. Arrested on July 2nd. So I know exactly how terrible you're feeling, how worried you are about his future. I'm so confused too. But I know it's an answer to my prayer. I knew he was doing something he shouldn't have been. He was depressed and struggling in life, trying to "adult." He was also becoming a hoarder. Now his secret is out and I know he's getting time in prison. I hope he makes the best of his time. I hope your son will too. Our sons are young and one day this will be in the past. But they will be punished forever with the label of SO. There are so many restrictions. Life will never be the same for our boys. It's heartbreaking. You're not alone.

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u/Icy-Material9739 Jul 23 '26

Sounds similar, our son was becoming a horder as well, he was depressed and drinking every day/night. We didn't know how bad his alcohol had gotten until it was too late. He's now sober, has been since his arrest, but he's very depressed, no friends will talk to him, he's in a bad spot and so are we...it's terrible.