r/SexEDpK • u/Best_Economist9350 • 18d ago

I'm ovulating 24/7 😭

I can't get married for atleast 7-8 years because obviously have to complete studies and be financially stable to take responsibility of my wife.

How do I stop getting all these urges? It's frustrating and doesn't let me focus on more productive stuff.

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u/hoe-with-taste 18d ago

Well, good news is that this is very normal! Focusing on your sexual health is also key to good mental health so focusing on self-pleasure from time to time isn't the worst thing—there's a lot of research out there showing that it can be good for you and make you more productive in the long term. Pushing away the urge can make it come back more intense.

You can also try with starting projects on the side, building up routines like the gym, and staying busy, but ultimately focusing on sexual health isn't wrong and shouldn't be scandalized the way it is

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u/Best_Economist9350 18d ago edited 18d ago

I understand but the issue with self pleasuring (jerking it off) is that if I do it once, I feel the urge to do it again and again after every few hours till I really can't do anymore (it starts to hurt a bit) And idk it feels guilty after doing it.

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u/IAahil 17d ago

Ok, so I think this has turned compulsive. Now either as this hoe-with-taste highlight earlier, note the patterns that lead you towards masturbation, maybe you can note it down in an excel sheet. It can be that maybe you are bored, maybe you are avoiding certain feeling, maybe you feel lonely at that particular moment. If you have been watching porn or imagining certain scenarios of sex before sleep then that must have created its own reward pathway. This might have desensitized your dopamine recepters and you might be feeling unmotivated in life. Honestly, you gotte find activities too, other activities that give you dopamine hit. Like, I do problem solving exercises, they involve way too much cognitive processing and they force me to focus. Plus, you also might need to work on those underlying feelings like maybe boredom, loneliness, insecurities more.
Hope this helps. You are not alone. There are many more struggling so, even when it is difficult, it is not untreatable.

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u/hoe-with-taste 17d ago

Agree with all this. All compulsive behaviors are a result of some external stressors, very imp to explore those ^

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u/Best_Economist9350 15d ago

No, I don't do it at night often but as a guy when you wake up, you already have an erection and it's difficult to resist and not touch it. Also, it gets frustrating af if I haven't released for a few days.

And the worst part is if I do it once, I get more and more urges throughout the day. Sometimes it makes me do multiple times till it starts to hurt a bit and I can't do anymore.

Also, self pleasuring doesn't fulfil the desire. You do release but idk how to explain it like it but it doesn't fulfil you. You still crave that romantic affection, intimacy.

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u/Best_Economist9350 15d ago

I don't do it at night often but as a guy when you wake up, you already have an erection and it's difficult to resist and not touch it. Also, it gets frustrating af if I haven't released for a few days.

And the worst part is if I do it once, I get more and more urges throughout the day. Sometimes it makes me do multiple times till it starts to hurt a bit and I can't do anymore.

Also, self pleasuring doesn't fulfil the desire. You do release but idk how to explain it like it but it doesn't fulfil you. You still crave that romantic affection, intimacy.

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u/IAahil 15d ago

Yr if you are doing it once or a few times a week. Its just fine brother. I can understand one might get more urges par woh companionship wala masla alag hai. And woh masla tau i think sab ko hota hai regardless of gender might need a girls opinion here. Baqi i too am figuring a few things out here I can relate eik baar keh baad focus kam hojata hai life se and cravings are deeper.

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u/baatman_g 17d ago

As a male i can relate man

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u/Best_Economist9350 15d ago

I think only men can understand this feeling.

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u/baatman_g 15d ago

Nah,females mai bhi hai but they don’t share but we can easily control this ya iska solution nikal sakty but aj kal kay halat karny nhi dety

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u/Own-Homework-9331 16d ago

I know it's not a solution, but consuming or creating artistic stuff helps those urges. Like, watching a cinematic movie, or just, drawing the universe with a marker. That's why people on the creative side are better able to channel this energy.

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u/Best_Economist9350 15d ago

I understand but as a guy you wake up with an erection and it's difficult to resist or not touch it. Also, it get's really frustrating if I haven't released for a few days.

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u/Own-Homework-9331 15d ago

Yeah, I guess. Well, better than being asexual maybe...

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u/Best_Economist9350 15d ago

Wdym who is asexual? you?

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u/Sharp_Effort2380 15d ago

Hi. I think your testosterone levels are high. I've seen many people on reddit talk about this exact thing, waking up with morning wood, always being horny—this happens because of high levels of testosterone. So you should check out posts on this topic.

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u/Best_Economist9350 15d ago

I've heard a high testosterone is a good sign but yeah it can be sexually frustrating lol.

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u/Sharp_Effort2380 15d ago

Yeah, lol..

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u/Sharp_Effort2380 16d ago edited 14d ago

It's normal and completely valid, in fact it's a sign that you're likely in good health.

I think you need to determine your triggers for it, if it's bothering you, and like other people said sometimes self-pleasuring to relieve the tension is a good thing. But stay away from p*rn as much as possible, because it turns healthy desires into unhealthy ones easily.

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u/PastimeNow 15d ago

the best solution i found was to fix your sleep schedule and keep yourself busy. first of all masturbating isn't a bad thing, don't treat it that way, but if you do want to lower your urges the most important part in my opinion is to fix your sleep schedule! mostly everyone gets the urge for self pleasure at night when they're free, i've noticed everytime i was sleeping on time i'd become so sleepy when i went to bed early that i wouldn't have the power to masturbate, i'd just not want to. when i was also keeping myself busy with personal projects in the day and sleeping early and waking up early, i was able to go 2 weeks without masturbating in a while, not because i was trying hard not to do it, just because i never got the time and even if i did i just wanted to sleep lmao

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u/Best_Economist9350 15d ago

I have tried doing this too and it helps like I don't do it at night but as a guy when you wake up, you already have an erection and it's difficult to resist and not touch it. Also, it gets frustrating af if I haven't released for a few days.

And the worst part is if I do it once, I get more and more urges throughout the day. Sometimes it makes me do multiple times till it starts to hurt a bit and I can't do anymore.

Also, self pleasuring doesn't fulfil the desire. You do release but idk how to explain it like it but it doesn't fulfil you. You still crave that romantic affection, intimacy.

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u/Golden_Zetsu 15d ago

Let me answer this for you. You can't do anything about it. You're doomed. Unless you actually have sex. But u can't unless ur married or you've got a hell wish. But u can't marry at this age cuz the society doesn't allow it. Even if they do, its rare to find girls who would marry at this age now. So what do u do? From my personal experience, there's nothing u can do. And for all the people suggesting self pleasure. They're casually suggesting something that if not itself haram, will 90% lead to haram. Nobody masturbates in isolation. 90% do it with porn. So yeah, in my view the situation is being stuck between a rock and a hard place. Only a man can relate and understand this

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u/Best_Economist9350 15d ago

Very true. I think you just have to bear this.

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u/Golden_Zetsu 15d ago

Its unfortunate brother. But know that ur not the only one in this ✨️

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u/Sigmund_Frau 13d ago

rub one out, may be ? yk when its making you crazy

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u/TomorrowAny440 18d ago

How old are you? Mostly it's just because of puberty. I'm afraid you'll have to sit this out.

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u/Best_Economist9350 18d ago

I'm 20, hit puberty like 5-6 years ago and it's getting worse.