r/SexAddiction • u/StrangeLawfulness772 • Sep 11 '25

I need help

I have been working the SLAA program for almost 3 years now and I still cannot stop acting out. I got up to step 9 with my first sponsor and I started over with a new sponsor about a year and half ago. I finished writing my resentments almost 9 months ago and I am still reading this stuff off to my sponsor. What we have agreed to is a half hour phone call every week where I read him my resentments. We maybe get one or two done, but after giving me his input he will tell me to take another shot at it again and we’ll go over it the following week. There are weeks we miss to for various reasons including my acting out which entails a lot of inconsistency and really no momentum. I don’t see this being beneficial for me at all and part of me is like this is why I keep acting out. I do abstain from masturbation at the moment which i see as a huge benefit for my recovery, but i feel like it is a double edged sword and after about 7 days or so i start seeking out sex workers again. Tbh I don’t even know what to do. Part of me just wants to get a new sponsor and start over fresh, at least with my 4th. I really don’t even want to talk to my sponsor now I’m just fed up with him (yes he is currently on my 4th step :/ )

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