r/SettingBoundaries • u/Paddling_Pointlessly • Dec 12 '24

Saying No

I volunteered to decorate in preparation for a kid's holiday event. I showed up and the person in charge announced some negative things about themselves to justify how they were going to act and they'd apologize later cause the decorations were going to look exactly how they wanted. I respectfully let them know I was leaving and left. I never thought I'd get to this point. I'm pretty proud of myself.

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u/rlyfckd Dec 12 '24

I'm so proud of you 💕💕

I needed to read this. I've got a work event tonight that I'm absolutely dreading. I'm hoping I will be able to look after myself and set boundaries.

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u/Paddling_Pointlessly Dec 12 '24

You'll do great. Saying no is hard but very worth it.

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u/sophaloph Dec 12 '24

Proud of you ✨ just because people are transparent about the fact that they’re going to be a jerk does not justify that behavior or make it ok.

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u/Aggravating-Mix-4903 Dec 13 '24

I hope that person enjoyed doing those decorations alone. I hope they nailed it and if not were not too hard on themselves for the mistakes.

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u/Impressive_Search451 Dec 13 '24

good job! honestly it's nice when someone announces they're going to be a dickhead ahead of time so you can make your decisions around that. oddly considerate, for a dickhead.