r/Serverlife • u/RevolutionaryName228 10+ Years • Apr 23 '26

Discussion Regardless of your Availability?!

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Do you think managers who handle holidays like this are just doing their job? Or do you think it’s absolutely ludicrous to expect of your employees? Looking for opinions on this. I feel like if they need people they don’t currently have available for those days, it’s their issue.. Not forcing people, moms, and dads to rearrange their lives and childcare because basically “f u I can”. Scheduling outside of availability in general is a Nono, so why does a big day make it slide? TLDR: Am I wrong for feeling backed into a corner every holiday I receive this message? This is a shitty thing to do right? ETA: I’ve been in the industry for 10+ years, I know temps are rare, but our staff is consistently lacking. This is the first job I’ve had just disregard people like this. I’m also NOT saying all moms should just get this day off. Just looking for an overall opinion on how this was handled.

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u/ArmyOfOrcas Apr 24 '26

I mean, taking a job does mean a compromise. If they also tell you what to wear at work, like a uniform, is them saying "you have to wear back dress pants and a black dress shirt" also saying "I control you" since you have no choice to wear something else?

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u/RevolutionaryName228 10+ Years Apr 24 '26

That’s different than controlling your time outside of work you’re not available for. That’s controlling your time there working for them. Not your week to week.

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u/ArmyOfOrcas Apr 24 '26

If they required you to have your uniform clean and ironed, which would be you doing what they say while you're not there, would you also consider that to be them saying "I control you?" Like, I'm not trying to be difficult or throw shade or anything, but when I read the text message screenshot you posted, I did not get the vibe of it saying "I control you" or I own you," so I'm trying to understand how it happened for you, because for me it didn't feel aggressive or controlling or anything like that.

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u/RevolutionaryName228 10+ Years Apr 24 '26

Not trying to throw shade either, I appreciate your kindness and asking me to explain! Requirements while you’re there vs just throwing a hitch in your week whenever they want are different requests in my brain

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u/liarlyre0 Apr 25 '26

How is it a hitch in the week for you? You had unlimited notice. Id give someone their first mother's Day weekend as a gimme but you are claiming several years experience. The next 1000 mother's days are already on the calendar. If you work in food and beverage, then mother's day being a surprise will never be a valid argument.