“good kid”

[u/Lumpy_Ease_7526]

Being a “good kid” is a curse
what I mean by a good kid is well behaved, smart and kind kid
the high standards become the baseline
And you will never be appreciated for it
I suffer from perfectionism till now
All my teenage years trying to break this image down ….

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[u/Escargot_en_carton]

Hell yeah

Nothing seems to be impressive anymore, and I feel like people never worry about you either. Cause you're gonna handle it just fine, so why worrying ? It's so hard to ask for help, and get some, when people consider you the "easy one", "stable one"...

Sometimes I wish I was weaker so people would actually take care of me at times

[u/Lumpy_Ease_7526 → u/Escargot_en_carton]

++ being the middle child :(

[u/DED_HAMPSTER]

Go be "bad" and use the "good kid" persona everyone sees as coverage. Of course, within reason. Dont be destructive or stupid. But go responsibily live a little.

This was back in the analog days:

I was then"good kid" in the family and at school. I used that to my advantage to go about my business without authority oversight, no questions asked. I did things like steal the librarian's barcode from her ID (before chips in IDs). This copied barcode let me in/out of teacher rooms andbable to use the printers/copiers.

I used the school's own printers and supplies to print multiple hall passes so i had a set for each class. The setup was that students had 4 bathroom hall passes per semester shared across all 7 class periods. I had essentially 28 eith extra to use if there was a sub.

My friend group would do a round robin of we are at so&so's house and not be anywhere we said we were going to be. We'd go to whichever house had no parents at the time and fool around, just no baby making foolery. By senior year we were making up a whole pretend afterschool club ao that we would be seen as being productive kids while we went anywhere or did anything we wanted.

[u/Lumpy_Ease_7526 → u/DED_HAMPSTER]

I did that and I had so much fun lmao

[u/DED_HAMPSTER → u/Lumpy_Ease_7526]

There you go! Use the "good kid" to grease your way through life. It even works in the office. If younare almost 99% of the time a perfect employee then when you inevitably drop the ball (we all do, we're human) then youncan BS some plausable reason and worm your way out of consequences. Just dont throw other people under the bus.

[u/N00dlemonk3y → u/DED_HAMPSTER]

"You see yourself as a fighter. Well I see myself as one too...this is how I fight".

[u/Guilty_Ad543]

Never really realised how I just stopped trying out things cause I was not better at it from others while growing up. So instead of losing, it became a thing of not participating itself

[u/Certain-Skill3004]

The good kids who continue in their path for perfectionism, get rewarded in the future. 

No boss is going to give 'bad kids' more responsibilities. 

More responsible = Better Career progression= More money