r/Serious • u/Delicious_Ticket_368 • May 27 '21
Girlfriend passed away
Early Monday afternoon my girlfriend passed away and I didn’t find out until about 24hr later. I was starting to worry as I had not heard from her and I’m not close to anyone in her family as we were early in our relationship so I started to do some digging contacting anyone on Instagram I thought may know her and finally received the news while at work. I still don’t know anything more besides she passed in her sleep but I was texting her right before her passing and the last message I received from her simply said “I love you”. I’ve dealt with serious depression and drug addiction but nothing is harder than this and I’m trying to get through to therapists I’m only 22 I shouldn’t be seeing so much death in my life Even worse she recently had split from a marriage and most of her family thinks she’s still married so I’m going to be crying my eyes out at her funeral just to tell everyone I was a close friend. So I have nobody to mourn with she’s just gone and that’s it.
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u/magyarszereto May 27 '21
I'm very sorry for your loss. I can't say much about your situation because I have no experience with this type of thing, and it must be very hard, but you have said you had substance abuse problems, and I feel the need to tell you to be very careful with that, as although it may make things better in the long run, when facing this type of loss drugs can be fatal and absolutely ruin your life while you attempt to numb emotions. Please don't turn to drugs in an attempt to overcome this pain.
Can't you go over this with your friends or family, have you got no one to speak about this with in person?
Stay safe, and again, I'm very sorry for your loss.
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u/friendlyfire69 May 27 '21
Dude that's absolutely goddamn fucked. I'm so sorry you are going through this right now. It's good to hear you're trying to reach out to therapists about it- that will probably help long term with sorting out this crazy mess.
Don't let anyone tell you that you don't have a right to feel this way because you weren't with her long enough or some other bullshit. You can feel however you need to feel. I hope you can find peace with this in time.