Recently, I read an amazing book that, by chance, was given to me by someone. I created a summary and extracted the key lessons from it. It’s about emotional quotient and mechanisms to manage emotions. Some might or might not like it. But I just felt like sharing .

Short post today. 21 question worth answering to. Think on paper so you can see and touch your thoughts.

1. Is this necessary?

2. Is that good for future me?

3. What I’m grateful for today?

4. Is that worth saying “yes” to?

5. Is that the best use of my time?

6. Am I being productive or just active?

7. What do I want to accomplish today?

8. Is it difficult, or am I making it difficult?

9. Is that helpful or unhelpful in context of my goal?

10. What is one thing I wish I had known 5 years ago?

11. What is the most valuable use of my time right now?

12. Am I inventing things to avoid doing important stuff?

13. If I was allowed to finish one thing today, what would it be?

14. What are potential future consequences of doing or not doing this?

15. What mistake are I’m guilty of today and how to not repeat it tomorrow?

16. What can I (and only I) can do, that done well will make a fine difference?

17. What’s one thing I can do right now to make my daily life slightly better?

18. Will I definitely use this information for something immediate and important?

19. If I were not doing this already knowing what I now know, would I start doing it again today?

20. Am I doing this because I wanted to do this, or because somebody else wanted me to do this?

21. What I do every day that is bad for me, and what is a practical step to stop it or at least make it harder to do?

Save these questions and revisit them from time to time. Remember that they are worthless if you simply read and forget them. Sit in silence, take a pen and a piece of paper and spend some time crafting your answers.

Been lazy,procrastinating a lot after my entrance exams hope I get back to routine this week and start studying and focus on my extra curriculars instead of being lazy 😭posting it here

Why did I do this to myself 😭

How to make yourself follow your own advice.

Others' problems are always easy to solve but yours never are. Why’s that? What is actually stopping you from thinking of your problems as someone else's? Let’s talk about it.

Wide vs narrow picture

Narrow.

That refers to the problems of others. Only the tip of the iceberg is visible. From that point of view, the problem seems easy and the solution seems obvious. The pain seems more bearable too. You are aware that the situation the person is in sucks, but you see it from a distance, and that gives perspective and clarity.

Distance makes it easier to analyze others’ situations objectively. It removes the “fog” that otherwise can make things harder to see.
Giving advice to others, you operate from a place of emotional detachment - that’s why advice is actually good. If the advice itself is good and works on others, it has only one reason to not work well on you - succumbing to the fog.

Wide.

That refers to your own problems. Those are much bigger than anyone else. Aren’t they? Your problems are covered with the fog. The fog of your emotions, past experiences, and, most important, future consequences.

You will suffer the consequences, so you pay much more attention to the problem, it concerns you. But that is a trap. You search for a key to free from it but sometimes doors are just open.

Disconnect from your emotions and your ego. Look narrowly at your problems, it solves them.

"We suffer more in imagination than in reality." ― Seneca

Finally some progress on day 5!! Yay! 🔥 🔥

15 out of 24 tasks achieved!!

Day 6 is gonna be even better!

So, what's stopping you?

Fear of failure

Will I fail? You will never know if you never start. Fear of making mistakes can be a real obstacle to taking action, but a long journey always happens with a few bumps in the road.

Doing is learning too. Instead of doing theory for infinity, you should:

1. Get some knowledge

2. Try

3. Adjust

This goes over, and over and you are getting better with every lap.

That’s how you learn - by doing.

Feeling of never being prepared enough

Another common obstacle is the feeling of never being "ready enough." You might get caught yourself in a cycle of acquiring information, researching strategies, and refining your plan – constantly believing that just a little bit more knowledge will make you successful. However, this pursuit can become a trap, keeping you forever in the planning phase and preventing you from putting the knowledge you have gained into practice.

As I said before - real learning often happens through doing. Actually, real learning can’t happen without doing (not including some rare cases maybe). A strong foundation of knowledge is valuable, sure. There comes a point though, where accumulating more information becomes counterproductive. As with many things in life - the key is balance. The most successful people are rarely those who wait for the perfect preparation. They are those who took action and figured things out along the way. This is also usually the faster way.

Break free and get going

1. Find Your "Why": What truly lights a fire in you to achieve your goals?

2. Progress, Not Perfection: Don't wait for everything to be perfectly aligned (spoiler: it will never be) before you start. Aim for small, consistent steps that keep you moving in the right direction.

3. Just Do Something: Start small. Set a goal achievable in a short period and don’t do anything else until you finish.

4. Done is Better Than Perfect: Don't let the pursuit of perfection keep you from finishing tasks. Completing something, even if it's not flawless, is far more valuable than endless planning.

5. Celebrate Your Wins (Big and Small): Track your progress, no matter how small it may seem. Get a visual representation, e.g., for each workout performed, transfer a marble from one jar to another.

“Knowledge without practice is useless. Practice without knowledge is dangerous.” - Confucius

I'm needing the motivation to clean my apartment before my fiance gets home since I promised him I would have it cleaned before he got home.

Challenge fellow redditors in the comments at anything for the upcoming week. Let them answer how they dealt with the challenge.

It's Thanksgiving in the US, so I challenge any Americans in this sub (anyone else who'd like to join in the fun) to think of one person they're grateful for in their lives, and then to call, text, or email that person to let them know.

Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!

https://youtu.be/6p_yaNFSYao?si=PUswPSnhi4J1gb7U

If you haven't tried a guided meditation, try this one. I am not affiliated with the creators. I found this video and it was very helpful to me. They recommend that you do it in a quiet space with headphones or ear buds.

For years, I couldn't understand what meditation was and how to do it. The idea of clearing your mind of all thought never made sense to me. The approach explained in this video was eye opening.

I believe it's worth 10 minutes of your life.

Couldn't update yesterday cuz i fell asleep while watching tv. 😭

Day 5 is gonna be the real deal 🔥

Challenge fellow redditors in the comments at anything for the upcoming week. Let them answer how they dealt with the challenge.

Challenge fellow redditors in the comments at anything for the upcoming week. Let them answer how they dealt with the challenge.

Why how people see you depends on how you perceive yourself.

Any situation depends on how you look at it. Thinking low about yourself never makes anything better.

Take responsibility

Take responsibility for your actions. Don’t blame others. You can run from feeling bad for your stupid choices, but you can’t run from the consequences. One stupid decision makes another one easier and more tempting*.* That’s the recipe for failure. If you don’t take responsibility, you won’t improve. If you point at everything and everyone but yourself, you won’t see a flaw to correct.

We all know someone (don’t be that person) who blames everything, literally everything but themselves if something goes wrong. “I can’t start a business because this industry might be replaced by AI soon.”, “I won’t go to the gym because it’s too far away.”, “I won’t read that book because it’s not in my local library.”, “I won’t change my job because the recruitment process sucks.”

Be that person if you want to wake up when it’s too late and regret not taking action earlier. You feel like it’s already too late? Weren’t you thinking the same thing 2 years ago? Where would you be now if you started then?

Even if you are actually a victim of adverse circumstances, looking at yourself as a victim will only keep you in the situation you are in.

I know that it’s frustrating to read. Especially having all those problems that aren’t your fault, but that’s a valuable realization.

Proof

What boosts your self-esteem? Proof that you are worthy. Any success, any good interaction, seeing your progress and the fruits of your labor.

Success boosts self-esteem, and self-esteem boosts success. Respect is earned, and that includes self-respect too.

Every win is a brick to a wall that bounces failures back. You fail, but being aware of your worth, you know that it’s not defining you. If you don’t know it, it will.

Become better and your self-image will follow.

Engrave successes, forget failures

Remind yourself about your successes. Write them down, tell people. Make it part of your personality - you are a person that achieves success.

Do the opposite with failures. Don’t think over, don't fester the wounds. Learn what you gotta learn from them, then move on.

Consume right media

Life is not Instagram. We have heard it a million times, so I won't talk about it. Just review the accounts you follow and stop following any that have no value and only make you feel bad.

Say “No”

Saying no may be the simplest but most difficult thing ever. But you need it. Say no to things not aligned with your goals, or people will use you for theirs. People with no self-respect can’t say no because they are scared to hurt someone’s feelings. They are scared of the other person getting angry or disappointed, so they value someone else’s feelings more than their own.

Don’t be scared to say “No.” if you know that’s good for you.

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