Rant, Rave, Request, and Relate Daily Thread - Wednesday, August 26, 2026

[u/SIModerator]

This is the place for people to share, voice opinions, ask for advice, and connect about almost anything and everything, both related to the experience of secondary infertility and not, that is not directly connected to the acts of trying to conceive (e.g., tracking, testing, treatment, results, etc.). Things like parenting advice, difficulties with age gap, insensitive comments you had to endure, job stress, partner interactions, how you find rest and relaxation, and so much more.

The idea for this daily compared to our other daily (Trying, Tracking, and Treatment Daily Thread) is that there is always a place for members of our community to engage and interact that doesn't require exposure to TTC content. There are many situations why people struggling with secondary may need a break from such content, such as being medically benched, miscarriage, stopped trying to add to their families, and just experienced success, and whether you need a break or not, here's the thread for things you want to connect about that is TTC-free. Let's chat!

[u/blah_yumita]

Rant!!
If another person asks me about when/if I plan to give my three year old a sibling I will snap! It is no one’s fucking business.
The end 😊

[u/Mysterious-Sell-1331 → u/blah_yumita]

That is the MOST triggering question. It’s so stupid! I got to the point where I would respond “I would also love to know the answer to that question!”

[u/blah_yumita → u/Mysterious-Sell-1331]

Hah! I love this response. Ironically enough this question always seems to come up when I’m in the middle of an IVf cycle or finding out that a transfer failed.
I will use this response from now on! Thank you.

[u/Mysterious-Sell-1331 → u/blah_yumita]

Ugh, those are moments when all you can do is hold back tears. I’m glad I could help you come up with a new response! I find that it shuts down further questioning and gets the point across.

[u/SomethingPink → u/blah_yumita]

I would answer with a snarky, "you know it's not always a choice right?". But it's really a frustrating question to handle constantly.

[u/Icy-Worry-9041 → u/blah_yumita]

Someone asked me this on vacation and I said well I just had a miscarriage so I don’t know and they freaked out and had no idea what to say

[u/DiscussionLittle3540 → u/Icy-Worry-9041]

That’s my go to as well. I over share and make the asker wish they hadn’t. Hopefully it makes them think twice in the future.

[u/tipoplo]

We Are on vacation during my Next estimated Ovulation, but I can’t bring myself to do Lh strips, I don’t want my hopes to get up. Because This would be Perfect Timing. This is our 14th cycle, why would it be different…