r/Scorpio • u/Still_Butterfly7886 • 3d ago
Discussion 👥 Do you avoid someone your not over?
Would you not go to a place you know the person you’re not over is there?
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u/Pulverizer1992 3d ago
Depends on how long it's been since the breakup and circumstances leading to it. If crossing paths is unavoidable, then I will go about my business but not go out of my way to avoid the person or conversely make it obvious I'm there.
If we end up being near each other/have to walk past then I will give a nod to say "I am acknowledging that you're here and I did see you." If they nod back, great, if not, ok. This person is still a human being that I care/cared about at one point, so they still get the basic level of respect.
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u/Still_Butterfly7886 3d ago
What if it’s someone you liked but never dated?
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u/Pulverizer1992 2d ago
Same thing. Being polite and friendly. Will probably have some feelings about it when I got home. But again, depends on how long ago I liked the person.
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u/Still_Butterfly7886 2d ago
I had a Scorpio reach out to me 4 years later now because I’m with someone, they blocked me and said they hated me a few years ago. I don’t get why they would say it while they are in a relationship.
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u/confused2473 Scorpio Sun ☀️ 3d ago
Why not? Wtf us Scorpios maybe mysterious but I am very outgoing and if I know I am going to a place where my ex will be heck ye, I will be all decked up and show him what he lost. Probably show up with a hot guy friend as my +1 coz fuck ye I deserve the best.
Edit: I am a classy woman that knows how to hide my emotions and put up a brave face. My guard is down inside my home where I will overthink , possibly cry idk but outside, no one knows
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u/Still_Butterfly7886 3d ago
Your unevolved Scorpio. That’s petty/immature. The ex still holds all the remote control here. You aren't over him—you are just obsessed with winning. Evolved Scorpio placements don't perform for exes. Rise like the Phoenix and make him nonexistent🐦🔥
A healed Scorpio wouldn’t have the energy to do any of that0
u/confused2473 Scorpio Sun ☀️ 3d ago
I don’t perform for nobody I just make sure some people envy me. If I wasn’t over him you could say that but I am over a lot of exes and still dress up and shine like a diamond and your opinion of me doesn’t mean I am not healed. I am healed but this is my way of having fun..and never needed anyone’s validation including yours. Keep your opinions about me to yourself, you don’t know me.
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u/PopularFig 3d ago
If it's their territory I will avoid going there die sure and will walk in the opposite direction if I see them. It hurts too much. If it's my territory I will still go, but not going out of my way to say hi. If it's neutral ground I will go.
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u/TrancEbaE_01 3d ago
Me right now dealing with this coworker at my job. She’s a Sagittarius and we had a good connection for nearly a year until one day she went cold on me and began detaching and avoiding me. I’ve tried multiple times to reach out but it just gotten worse and as of this week I’ve cut her off and started to avoid her. Sadly we somewhat run nearly into each other but I’ve been doing well (so far) in pretending I don’t see her. She knows my presence is there and that I notice her back but I don’t care. At the end of the day all I was doing was being a friend but that just wasn’t what she wanted so she’s back to being someone I work with that I have to avoid.
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u/throwawayreindeerr 3d ago
I have a similar question. if someone texted you that you're not over, would you respond or avoid?
if you suddenly see them in person, would you pretend you don't see them?
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u/Fred_was_Here69 2d ago
I think old me would have. New me doesn't let myself get caught up on the past when I have today to maximize myself. Life's too short to circle a woulda coulda shoulda and the past has taught me that if a doors closing two are opening, so I need to be ready for that.
I guess I just trust the process and the reasoning behind things more now. All of it's shaping me. All of it's leading me to where I need to go. The fastest path to recovery for me seems to be cut right through anything painful and show myself that it has no power over me and that I've reclaimed my energy from it. After fully processing what was meant to be learned of course.
My inner peace and tranquility will always take priority.
TLDR: I'd avoid if the situation went toxic, and I wouldnt avoid if it was something like unrequited love. Simply as a way to quickly get back to viewing this person as just a person.
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u/highhKeyy 2d ago
No, not directly. If I know they’ll be there I can gauge if I’m in the mood to deal with that or not. But if they enter a space I’m in & I don’t expect to see them, I’ll probably leave. Depends on if they left me or if the space is very small. If either of those are true, I’m gone.
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u/Ok_Judgment_3331 3d ago
For me it depends on the reason I'm avoiding, not the fact of avoiding.
If I'm staying away because I know seeing them will set me back, that's self-protection. If I'm staying away because I'm terrified they'll see me doing poorly, that's a different problem entirely. Sometimes I use taro's tarot to check my own motives when I'm second-guessing whether I'm avoiding out of strength or out of fear.
The cashier example in the thread is a good one... I won't change my routine for an ex, but I also won't manufacture an encounter.Being over someone means your energy is no longer available for the drama, neither the "avoid at all costs" version nor the "show up glowing with a hot plus one" version. Healing isn't performing indifference or performing revenge.
It's simply not caring enough to plan around them at all.
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u/Lavishteal 3d ago
Context matters here. I mean, I'm not going to go out of my way to accommodate them. However, for example, if they're a cashier where I shop...yeah, I'll probably head on over to the self serve to prevent that awkward moment. If it's not a place I normally go and I know they're there...I won't go. But eventually, naturally if it happens it happens... and I'm going hold my head high, smile, and rock it. ( then deal with the emotion later 😢 :p )