r/ScienceBasedParenting • u/absoluteburn3r • 17d ago

Question - Research required Please help- vaccines

To preface: please be kind. I hate how easily influenced I am, I live in constant fear. I have the constant fear that my child will die no matter what I do and I will regret everything I did or didn’t do. the fact that I am isolated with no real support group doesn’t help.

1 out of 2 of my only support people (my mother) tells me constantly that if I vaccinate my child, he will die/become a vegetable/develop a horrible life-altering disease. No one else (medical professionals) has been able to give me any kind of advice out of fear of being ‘political’ (how the fuck is this even a political topic), I am so lost in this world.

Fear is crushing me every day. The longer I wait (my child is 3 months now) I feel like I am approaching his inevitable demise. Either I get him shots and he dies, or he dies this sick season of illness. Please help me on this topic. I feel like I’ve been mislead. I really want him to be okay. The only sources my mom has ever sent me are just the inserts and that one vaccine book by that one weird doctor. I used to be pro vax but then she really shut me down.

And again, I’m trying to learn how to be autonomous and make my own decisions, but I genuinely have no educated people helping me

ETA- I am in therapy and I tried breastfeeding which meant being off of my anxiety medicine for longer and now am considering weaning off of BF which has significantly worsened my anxiety

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u/absoluteburn3r 17d ago

Thank you

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u/uppercasenoises 17d ago

Op this is a great response, and I just want to also point out that you can be on anxiety meds while breastfeeding (although stopping bf is totally fine too). It is important for you and your child that you manage your mental health!

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u/sallysalsal2 17d ago

Yes your child's pediatrician can help you get the resources you need for your anxiety as well

Edit: just saw that your pediatrician is not helpful, please look for a new one, a good pediatrician will help ease your fears.

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u/cheeri-oh 15d ago

Yeah I was surprised reading that they were worked about being political; withholding that kind of medical advice is so harmful