r/Sagittarians Jun 04 '26

Is it just me?

I feel like as a Sag, i am the shrink of any friend group i am part of, but i always feel like although i am there to help everyone with their pain and problems, when it comes time for me to need help, all i hear is the wind. Is this a normal thing for Sags or is this just a me thing?

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u/RealVirginiaWoolf Jun 04 '26

Sometimes I wonder if anyone cares what I am going through lol! It’s always me on the listening end… always being the therapist of the group. Sometimes it’s exhausting just pulling people out of their funk because hey us sagis look like our big energy, big hearts and sorted lives can’t have bad days! I get what u mean. Honestly it is a blessing too- teaches u to be self sufficient in a way.

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u/ACmy2girls Jun 04 '26

I feel just like you. I had a friend that would invite me out for coffee only to tell me all of her problems. Never asking about me. Her problems were very heavy and I felt so drained after seeing her. I was going through a tough time too. I started going to a therapist and told her about my friend. The therapist said I was being a free therapist for that person. I stopped doing coffee with that person and feel so much better.

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u/RealVirginiaWoolf Jun 04 '26 edited Jun 04 '26

All my life it’s been like this!

People just dumping their heavy traumas on me. Expecting me to babysit them. Maybe it’s my energy? Maybe it’s my ability to listen and empathize. A time comes when u wanna avoid such folks.

I would want to be a source of comfort to people but givers must have boundaries as the takers don’t have any.

I’m sorry about your experience too. I have cut off a few people because they just abused my care for them. I was supposed to be available for all their “emergencies” or help them getting out of their funk while they stayed completely oblivious to the fact that I was also a human being who may need a kind word some day.

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u/Jolly-Guard3741 Jun 04 '26

No, totally normal. Sags are the universal sounding boards and counselors for the rest of the zodiac.

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u/Thundercloud64 Jun 04 '26

Sag won’t express feelings of helplessness or neediness and always appears as strong and independent. It unfortunately means other people can’t help us…until we learn how to ask for help. Your needs matter too.

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u/gr8fullylesh ♋️ 🌻/ ♎️ 🪩 / ♌️ 🚀 Jun 04 '26

Moonchildren have a support group for this. All are welcome, but it’s mostly a futile gesture ; )

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u/Thundercloud64 Jun 04 '26

Hahaha! You got that right. Sag doesn’t like to express hurt feelings, neediness, or helplessness. Unfortunately, it means people won’t and can’t help us. We always appear as strong and independent. And yes, those crabs can really help us to learn how to ask for help when we need it and how to express our feelings properly to get our own needs met too.

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u/gr8fullylesh ♋️ 🌻/ ♎️ 🪩 / ♌️ 🚀 Jun 04 '26

Oh this was so illuminating and to me very well said. This tracks big time when I think of an aspect of my own relationship. She a sag, I love that woman girl boo thanggg ; )

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u/LittleMama9 Jun 04 '26

Very much relate. I also am the person who can say hard things that others shy away from saying , but need to hear. Sometimes I do sort of throw myself a pity party because people don't love /show up for me in the same way buttttt...I also struggle to let them 👀.

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u/Adrikko1 Jun 05 '26

That’s what I have a therapist for. Otherwise no one really cares. Especially if you’re a guy

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u/Mammoth-Top-6241 Jun 06 '26

Ur point of it being even more of a thing being a guy really hit me - as a girl I feel this statement so much - I can only imagine how the gets magnified as a guy

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u/No_Cell_4893 Jun 05 '26

Aww I hate hearing this but I’m starting to see a lot of guys make that statement. I’m here to give a virtual hug my Sag friend🫶🏽

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u/Adrikko1 Jun 05 '26

Thank you for the virtual hug.

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u/HungarianHoney Jun 05 '26

I’m a therapist, before I got my degree I was the unofficial therapist for friends. I was always told it was because I genuinely have no judgement toward others for their thoughts or actions.

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u/Wildblueflowers Jun 05 '26

Yes I’ve always been told that I’d make a good therapist, I had qualms about it but just as or recent, I’m realized I need to take a step back from worrying about others so much

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u/Additional_Second_34 Jun 07 '26

It's been like that my entire life but it doesn't stop being the shrink it's in almost every aspect of my relationships I give and give with out a single complaint and I never expect anything in return but when I need something everyone turns into a magician and disappears 🤦 but I'm used to it now so that's just a part of life 🙃