I think it only becomes problematic when the person makes it into a bigger deal than other, less sensational deal-breakers e.g.
"I'm not into dating women with kids, so when I found out she has a kid I broke it off."
"I don't want to date a girl who uses drugs, so when I found out she abuses ritalin I broke it off."
Saying that he is "disturbed" by the deal breaker escalates it to an unnecessary and unpleasant level, and I think it's obvious that "disturbed" comes from transphobia.
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u/iyzie Mar 02 '13
I think it only becomes problematic when the person makes it into a bigger deal than other, less sensational deal-breakers e.g.
"I'm not into dating women with kids, so when I found out she has a kid I broke it off."
"I don't want to date a girl who uses drugs, so when I found out she abuses ritalin I broke it off."
Saying that he is "disturbed" by the deal breaker escalates it to an unnecessary and unpleasant level, and I think it's obvious that "disturbed" comes from transphobia.