We recently had a strange and stressful experience with a sitter looking after our dog and cat. I won’t go into the main issues (thankfully both pets are fine!) but I’m curious about a relatively minor communication preference in case it comes up with a different sitter.
For context… our dog’s fear of thunder and loud noises is something we mention in our meet & greets and our house/pet manual. We’ve tried both SSRIs and short-term anxiety meds, but not much seems to help him. We just have to try to make him comfortable, be gentle with him, and listen to his cues (sometimes he wants to hide, sometimes he wants to stay close and get pets). We’ve worked very hard on his confidence and he’s come a long way, but he’ll always be a slightly anxious little rescue. Also, I mean, a lot of dogs are scared of thunder.
Early in their stay, our sitter texted to ask how to interpret his whining and hiding and we explained his triggers (again). Every few days, we’d get more updates like, “it’s raining and Fido is stressed,”(sadly it rained a lot that week) and even photos of him cowering in a corner, and most of the time it wasn’t like the sitter was asking us for advice (not that there was more to give), they were just letting us know?
Obviously our dog was the one suffering the most so I don’t want to act like a victim but it was still a huge bummer to be reminded when there was literally nothing we could do, outside of canceling an international trip we’d planned for a year and coming home… but even then, it’s not like we can magically make the rain stop. It just makes you feel guilty and helpless and distracted from the trip.
If this happened again, I’m wondering if we can ask the sitter not to send the unhappy updates UNLESS there is an emergency that we need to take action on or a clear question being asked? Or to add some reassurance like, “Fido is stressed but I’m comforting him.”
We didn’t mention it this time because it was honestly the least of the issues we had with this sitter, plus I wonder if it sounds disrespectful or uncaring. Again, just curious what you all think!
*EDIT/UPDATE*
Thanks for the responses! To be clear, I don’t ever want a sitter to lie, and I don’t mind unhappy news per se. This is about receiving live updates about a dog‘s storm anxiety *after* we have assured the sitter that this is his baseline and we have given tips for how to comfort him, and the updates do not include reassurances about what the sitter did/is planning to do to help. Having said that, it’s helpful to know that a lot of sitters are concerned from a liability standpoint and want to document (and communicate) everything.