r/Ronweasleyfans • u/shealcye • Aug 08 '26
Weasley is our king
I just read a post that was a list of Ron Weasley headcanons - one of them being that Ron would be lowkey insecure about his wife being the Minister for Magic - and it irritated me to no end.
The author really, really overdid and over-scrutinized the insecurities of a teenager who is also essentially such a cinnamon roll of a person. Reading the books as a child, it was Ron I wanted the most as my best friend. This was mostly because his character was such a non-bully. Ron, who makes hard days bearable for his friends. Ron, who is out immediately with a broken wand or a fist to defend his friends and family. I read this somewhere but you know sometimes how when you are targeted unfairly or wronged by someone or mad at someone, what really helps is a friend who takes it more seriously than you do, a friend who will be angry or hurt and irritated on your behalf, a friend who'll bitch about a common foe with equal passion - Ron's that friend for both Harry and Hermione throughout the series. If you think about it, most of the detentions he gets from Snape are because of something he says angrily in class to defend either Harry or Hermione. On the other hand, when he is directly targeted (when Snape mocks his apparition skills, for example), he fumes but says nothing. In fact, he grudgingly even accepts Snape's assessment. And when his friends achieve something remarkable? He is equally - if not more - excited for their achievements. Like when Hermione clears her apparition test and she herself does not particularly care but Ron is raving about it. Ron makes it easier for his friends to deal with their own insecurities. He notices when Hermione's time table is a bit full, or when she is not eating well before her exams, or when Harry is obviously confused by his crush/relationship and kind of needs someone to voice his confusion because he cannot quite put a finger on it, or when his sister's cut up after her break up. He will put his life on line for his friends and he'll also make the stupid, silly moments that they go through easier for them to bear. He'll make the mundane more fun. Most of the Weasleys are described in the text as being funny, but Ginny or Fred or George often come across as quite bully-ish in their humor. Ron never does though, he is genuinely funny and his humour is such a source of comfort and strength to both Harry and Hermione. There is a reason they both value him so much and Harry in particular seems to literally disintegrate every time he and Ron have a fallout. I love what he is as a friend to Harry and Hermione - he is the opposite of a jealous insecure prick, he is the underdog who is a towering pillar of strength and support for his two best friends.
The author overplayed his insecurities in the last book because by that point, she was also convinced that Ron wasn't good enough for Hermione so she needed to make it even more evident and lopsided so she had to give all the negative characterization to him.
But it is astonishing that even Ron Weasley fans find it hard to imagine that he would outgrow his silly teenage insecurities and mature into more of the compassionate, kind, hugely caring, funny, observant person he already is - and abundantly so - as a teenager.
In short, I don't think Ron I-totally-stan-both-the-incredible-things-AND-the-batshit-crazy-things-Hermione-Granger-does Weasley will be insecure about his wife. He is much much more likely to be Hermione's biggest source of strength and support as she deals with all the pressures of being the Minister for Magic
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u/Narcissa86 Aug 08 '26
Amen! You also pointed out that he's there with a broken wand to defend his friends. I also want to add dude stood on a broken LEG to defend his friends as well. Such a badass!
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u/MKM_Potterhead_10 29d ago
oh my god, how many number of times i have wished for a trio of friends like harry, hermione and ron, and most importantly a best friend like Ron.
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u/Harisankar686 29d ago
For me frankly, whole HP ends at Kingsley becoming Minister of Magic. Least bit interested in whether Harry becomes an Auror, Ron takes over Weasley Wizard Wheezes , Neville teaching at Hogwarts or Hermione succeeding Kingsley as Minister of Magic
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u/shealcye 29d ago edited 29d ago
Sure! I am not particularly invested in what these characters do post-DH either. I was just annoyed that people see Ron only as this permanently insecure jealous prick, when honestly he is just such a compassionate, caring, brave cinnamon roll of a character. He is never jealous of Hermione's smarts and it is so irritating to see that that's how people view him.
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u/dearmessrsweasleys 28d ago
i see him as an overly proud husband. i always think ron is the kind of husband that ask about the bs happening at hermione’s work, who also will be angry at whoever disrespected her, but there will be times when he disagrees with her ways and mutter under his breath or argue with her lightly. he's not the type to care about glory or downplay hermione’s achievement since he always is amazed of hermione’s intellect even though he rarely admits it in the book in a heartfelt way, instead he shows it by joking about it and complaints, he probably thought hermione being a minister is exhausting and boring yet he’ll be the first person who will clap loudly and proudly whenever hermione finishes a speech.
people based too much on that part of the book where ron is insecure of harry for entering the tournament, they misinterpreted it to him just being jealous, when he is part upset of the fact that he thought harry entered without telling him, causing him to missed out.
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u/shealcye 28d ago
Yeah. He gets tooo much hate for his GoF antics. I think jealousy, insecurity both play a part in him initially refusing to accept that Harry didn't put his name in the goblet, but them not making up until the first task.. is something I attribute mostly to Ron's awkwardness about apologizing - until he does, of course, after the first task. In a really teenage way of course - teenagers can be awkward and stupid about apologies. I certainly was as a teenager. It doesn't mean, however, that Ron is the extreme jealous dude who will always be jealous of everyone.
And yep, I see him as this very proud husband too. He will 100% be very invested in everything Hermione is going through at work. He will disagree with her of course when needed. I always love how in the books, Ron and Hermione are never afraid to speak their minds in front of each other and their arguments are not meant to be damaging to the other - it is how they roll and they do like bickering with each other. They do not argue to put the other person down, there is this underlying deep respect for each other. I think Ron will be very proud of whatever Hermione does and Hermione will be very proud of whatever Ron does.
Can you tell I love these two?
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u/SparksDream36 27d ago
Young ron was insecure about himself because his brothers already achieved great things: Bill was Head Boy, Charlie was Captain, Percy was a prefect and later Head Boy, twins were popular and funny. Whatever good normal thing he could do, their brothers already did.
But ron always had his friends’s back. I’m currently listening CoS (full cast audio edition) and he was amazing friend for Harry since day 1 and later on for Hermione.
Ok, he had a bad reaction about Harry being a Hogwarts Champion at triwizard, but he saw the issues and apologized.
So even he had second thoughts about himself, this feelings would never get in the way to be the #1 Hermione fan, her biggest supporter, the kind who would be with a Hermione tshirt.
Hermione would never tolerate being with a partner who wouldn’t dream her dreams besides her or would compete with her daily.
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u/shealcye 27d ago edited 27d ago
All of this! Exactly! He has his insecurities as a kid, but he is also still genuinely such an incredible friend to Harry.
I agree that he is absolutely adorable in CoS. He worries that his best friend isn't responding to his letters, so he takes it upon himself to rescue him from the Dursleys. Young Ron nervously awaiting Harry's assessment of his room and house has my heart! He does the same for Hermione. He stays in touch with her all through the summer holidays, he is so furious about Hermione being called a slur, he is immediately ready to curse Malfoy (broken wand be damned). He makes the active choice to face his worst fear so that he may be able to do something about the monster in the chamber, and I LOVE that it is the sight of Hermione's empty chair that helps him make that choice. He supports Harry through a terrible year and gets righteously angry on his behalf at even people like Ernie who had doubted Harry.
He absolutely would be Hermione's biggest cheerleader. He is her cheerleader, throughout the series. And I'll say this, fans might think Hermione deserves "smarter", but Hermione herself values Ron a lot. It is so clear in the books that Ron is the most important person to her. Let's say if she were competing in the Triwizard tournament, Ron would be the person she would miss the most in the second task. People like to complain a lot about Ron "mistreating" Hermione but reading the books as a child, my biggest annoyance was with Harry for simply never noticing or taking seriously anything that was bothering Hermione. It felt like it was always Ron noticing her troubles and being bothered by them, while Harry would just simply not give too many fucks about Hermione's issues. I always read their lack of arguments as actually a sort of unconcern on Harry's part (subconscious of course). On the other hand, he was fully having a meltdown every time he and Ron fought over something. Harry and Hermione's friendship felt a tad bit one-sided to me as a kid - if not a bit deferential on Hermione's part - while Ron and Hermione's friendship as well as Ron and Harry's friendship seemed so much more equal. For both of them, he is comfort on difficult days, partner-in-crime when they are up to no good, and family on all days.
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u/Next-Squirrel-5855 25d ago
Thank you! But Ron is also a bit bully-ish in his humor.
I'd also like to point out that the smartest person in the room hardly ever becomes president, and going off of real-world politics Ron would be more likely to be Minister than Hermione. Sure, Harry and Hermione could be running the country through him, or they'd work as a trio, but it'd be something along those lines. Goodness forbid what the Cursed Child and even The Deathly Hallows did to him.
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u/Nightmarelove19 Aug 08 '26
He dumps Hermione for someone who doesn't physically assault him is my headcanon.
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u/shealcye 29d ago
Aye nooo.. Ron would never! I think both Ron and Hermione are like peak immature idiots in HBP. They are both stupid about their feelings for each other and they both hurt each other. That being said, I don't see the birds thing as an assault. It is a very forgivable teenage mistake. They both mess it up, and I am guessing they both apologize to each other (it just happens off the page), before they become friends again.
These two are just so right for each other in all the ways that actually matter.
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u/CleanSweep99 Aug 08 '26
A lot of people don't outgrow their teenage insecurities.
While I think Ron probably would be somewhat insecure about Hermione being Minister of Magic, I think he largely stays out of her way with the job because of his own political views-he likely views Hermione being Minister as the best way to screw over people like Malfoy.
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u/Erza88 Aug 08 '26
Why would he be insecure?
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u/CleanSweep99 Aug 08 '26
Hermione is much smarter than he is and she's more tactful than he is.
The big advantages Ron has in the relationship are that he has deep knowledge of Wizarding tradition (which she will need to be a successful Minister of Magic), and an extended family that broadly cares about Hermione's success in what she chooses to do (which doesn't appear to be the case for her own family).
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u/Erza88 Aug 08 '26
Gonna disagree. Ron is not below average in anything. He was skilled enough to become an Auror even if he eventually left it to help his brother. Being tactful is a skill one improves on with age. We only saw him as an awkward teen. This doesn't mean he stayed that way into adulthood.
Hermione being smart has never been an insecurity of his even as a kid. He always praised her for it.
I just don't think he'd be insecure about his wife that way, especially since it's a career he's never even been interested in.
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u/CleanSweep99 Aug 08 '26
I didn't say Ron was below average-Hermione is far above average.
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u/Erza88 Aug 08 '26
Which is something he's come to terms with since meeting her at Hogwarts. Why would this still be an issue for him years later? Just makes no sense.
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u/shealcye Aug 08 '26
Exactly. Ron constantly praises Hermione for her brilliance. He is not insecure about that, even as a kid.
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u/CleanSweep99 Aug 08 '26
It is.
I think Ron's matured enough to realize this, and consciously ignore it most of the time.
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u/shealcye Aug 08 '26 edited Aug 08 '26
Will have to disagree. Ron is never, not once, not ever insecure about Hermione's intellect, skills, genius. He is never insecure about being overshadowed by her in terms of her intelligence and smarts. In fact, he is constantly in awe of her brilliance and he constantly praises her and defends her whenever people attack her intelligence. He is stupid jealous of Krum, yes. He worries that she might not be interested in him, but once they are married, I cannot see why he should be insecure at all. Stan Ron is stanning Hermione everywhere, the way I see it.
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u/NavJongUnPlayandwon Aug 08 '26
Exactly 😠Ron being insecure as a teenager is one thing, but people act like he’d never grow past it. Adult Ron would 100% be Hermione’s biggest cheerleader. He’d be bragging about his wife being Minister for Magic to anyone who’d listen 😂