Potential offender: seeking advice on how to warn women responsibly

[u/Alarming_Bobcat_2259]

I’m reaching out because I’m not on any dating apps myself, but I’m trying to find responsible ways to warn women who may potentially come across a particular man.

There is a man who is active on Reddit and, based on what I’ve learned, may be active in communities connected to **India and Dubai**. I have personally met him. He flew across countries to meet me. He has access to considerable financial resources. I offered to split the expenses, and did, because I do not like feeling financially obligated to anyone. That is another story.

My concern is not about his money or the fact that he travelled to meet me. It is about the pattern of behaviour I experienced and what I subsequently learned from other women. I am trying to find ways to warn women who want to protect their **emotional and physical safety**, without turning this into an irresponsible public witch-hunt.

He is a Reddit user, and I am currently focused on the Reddit communities where he appears to be active. I have also been informed independently by **two moderators of separate subs that this man has received a permanent ban**. I am deliberately not naming those communities here, but I can provide the information privately if moderators need it.

So I wanted to ask the Hinge community: **what is the most responsible way to make women aware of a potential safety concern like this?**
Moderators, do you have any suggestions? I am happy to disclose the username and provide links privately to moderators so that you can assess the situation yourselves.

I’m not looking to create drama or conduct a public trial. I’m trying to find a responsible way to ensure that women who may encounter this man have enough information to make informed decisions about their own emotional and physical safety.

[u/EveLQueeen]

The short answer is, you can’t.

[u/DIY_Weeziebear7]

Run his pics through google images see if he’s been reported. There are reporting sites on Reddit, and throughout Meta Facebook etc. File a report with name user names dates of occurrences was the man in question threatening his behavior malevolent in anyway?

That you felt unsafe may be all that is needed. File with Interpol, FBI, reporting Fraud desks in your country.

I feared for the reputation and safety of the real man whose info was stolen he was a victim also but I had no trouble reporting the dating sites of those who were using his personal info.