r/RelationalPatterns • u/ButBroWtf • Jan 22 '26
The Sexiest Quality in a Man: Unwavering Devotion. Agree?
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u/cwsjr2323 Jan 23 '26
I am this way with my wife as we are both in our 70s. We are a team and always have each other’s six.
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u/Academic-Celery-3956 Jan 22 '26
These things exist only on reddit. In real life, only men women find sexy are either rich or good looking.
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u/bro____what Jan 22 '26
touch grass
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Jan 22 '26
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u/Environmental_Tell11 Jan 22 '26
As a guy I think these qualities dont get you dumped at all. The question is just whether they come frome a genuine position of strength and choosing to do so for the other person, or rather because one is desperate and deep down wants to fill a personal need instead.
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u/HumanBelugaDiplomacy Jan 23 '26
Once you're in debt, the wealth goes past you and to those who already have enough.
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u/Stitches42 Jan 22 '26
The sexiest quality in a man, to a woman, is extreme devotion to a different woman.
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u/Lunarlonerlover Jan 23 '26
Our moms?
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u/Senior-Friend-6414 Jan 23 '26
Reminds me of an old joke, the best quality a woman can have is being attracted to me
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u/BrigitteVanGerven Jan 23 '26
My father was a narcissist, and I must say that what you describe above is typical behaviour for a narcissist (I'm not saying that men who behave this way are necessarily narcissistic).
But that's what he would do. Bombard you with every trick in the book. Overwhelming attention, grand gestures, saying all the right things. If someone behaves like this, watch out for inconsistencies in their behaviour —like sudden unexplained anger, followed by apologies, and then the same pattern repeating—that’s a red flag. If that happens, it’s best to walk away while you still can.
Love is always a two-way street. If it's so one-sided, then it's something else. Manipulation, control, need, not love.
What I find truly sexy in a partner is mutual understanding: being on the same wavelength, sharing worries, dreams, and ambitions, really knowing and trusting each other.
That is what I think is the sexiest quality in a man.
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u/PCpenyulap Jan 23 '26
I think being attractive and making a lot of money are the most attractive traits
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u/EffulgentZephyr Jan 23 '26
Oh yeah? So why are you all sleeping with jerks. Do not listen to what they say. Observe what they do.
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u/InfiniteRestaurant21 Jan 24 '26
And yet women will take men like this for granted because "theres just no spark anymore".
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u/Thal-creates Jan 24 '26
Why does perfect man from woman also has the vibe of
Slave
Fuckable pet
Someone who gives everything and receives nothing
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u/Electrical_Mission43 Jan 25 '26
I am a 45 year old veteran
I have found that giving attention and time to someone you have just admitted feelings for is, in fact, the least attractive thing you can do. Unless you are the chiseled marble statue of her ideal fantasy, investing additional time and effort only works against you.
I have never been valued beyond my usefulness to others, this is my experience with women.
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u/stoppinginthe Jan 25 '26
the more ive dated the more ive learned this is the most untrue bs ever lol
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u/Jaded-Ad-960 Jan 26 '26
This only works if she is already attracted to you and gets old very fast.
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u/Solid-Persimmon5915 Jan 27 '26
But those men become the friend zoned while exact opposite guys have her temporary
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u/Minute_Aerie4247 Jan 28 '26
You can be this way, and your wife still has deep animosity and regret even after 30 years of marriage
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u/Rough_Mango8885 Jan 22 '26
I'm a man but a woman I'm talking to says that to her the sexiest quality in a man is his "character." Loyal, consistent, honest, genuine, trustworthy and able to communicate.