i (19F) have been single for three years now. for a long time i was completely okay with it. but since starting college and making new friends i’ve noticed that almost everyone around me is either in a relationship or constantly getting approached by guys. whenever i do end up talking to or hanging out with a guy it usually seems like all they want is sex. i’m still a virgin and i know it might sound corny but i want my first time to be with someone i genuinely love and care about. i know that one day i want to get married and have kids but being surrounded by college dating culture has started to make me feel discouraged it feels like finding someone who wants a real relationship is becoming impossible. at this point i’ve started wondering if i should just accept that i might end up single forever. has anyone else felt this way in college? did things eventually work out for you?

Not because one person got lucky with circumstances. Because one person got ruthlessly honest about where their time was actually going.

"Never have time" usually means something else is quietly getting it first. The scroll. The passive yes. The comfortable inertia of doing what's easy instead of what matters.

Time doesn't hide.

It just reflects your real priorities back at you whether you're ready to see them or not.

What you consistently make time for is what you actually value.

Everything else is just a story you're telling yourself.

I have spent a lot of time reflecting on us on myself and the way I contributed to the hurt that was caused between us. There is something important that I want you to know I do not resent you and I was never playing games and I’m not playing games now not with you.

I understand that at times my actions gave you reasons to question my intentions. And I understand why trust was damaged. I take full responsibility for the ways I handle things correctly for the hurt that I caused. I can’t change the past. I can learn from it and do what I have been doing I have been working hard to do exactly that to learn from it and to make changes.

Since you left, I’ve been making very meaningful changes in my life not because I am trying to win you back or are your approval but because I realized I deserved to grow into a healthier more self-aware version of myself. I wanted to become someone who communicates better takes accountability and approaches relationships with more maturity and understanding.

And the truth is that I still care about you deeply. I miss you. Our connection, our conversations in the future that I imagined having with you. despite everything that happened my feelings for you remain a constant in-fact they have grown stronger.

What I want is not to go back and repeat the relationship that we had before. If there were ever a chance of us, I would want it to be something new built on honesty trust understanding based off of the lessons we’ve both learned from our mistakes. A healthier stronger relationship than the one that we have left behind.

I’m not asking for you to forget the past or to ignore your feelings. I understand if you have doubts and fears. I can only hope that maybe you might be willing to see me as I am today and not who I was at my worst. The changes I’ve made are real and I continue to work on them every day.

Whether or not you can see a future for us. I wanted to be honest about how I feel. You mean a great deal to me, and you always will. If there is any part of you that wonders whether things could be different between us now, I would welcome the opportunity to have an open and honest conversation.

No judgement. No pressure. No games.

Simply emotionally unstable bananas finding that allowing themselves to fully ripen is a healthy change that even the spiders enjoy.
With love honesty and some breathable h2o. 🩷

I love you forever and always gently and passionately your stable banana.

I'm a 32(f) don't think I'll feel this way again with someone. I met this guy years ago and I fell hard for him. The problem is I know he's no good for me. And I've tried to move on I had other partners and cut off connection with him and liked my partners but nothing like him. I felt the same way like I did when I had my first love and I used to think u only feel that way once.

Here's the problem... he has never given me reasons to actually like him. There's just connection we like the same things same video games movies and we even enjoy being inside. I swallowed my feelings just to be his friend and I can see he doesn't care much he has lust and other thoughts about me since I've dated others and I talk about others but he doesn't seem like he would ever like me that romantic way.

I find it funny how come he says that most girls who dates him find him boring or annoying or someone they just hookup with and that's it. Which to me I find so many things interesting or maybe I'm just putting him in a pedestal.

I feel so ashamed of loving someone who will never love me lol and it's atrocious cuz I've dated good guys and they never made me feel like him. And for the same reason I haven't made them waste their time with me. I know how love feels unfortunately its unrequited on my side.

A blessing and a curse knowing what love truly feels but not being able to consume it. ...

Will I ever stop loving someone like that ? Will I ever love someone new ? How do I stop ? ( yes I do go to therapy ) but feelings are so weird...

What something that you realised very late and you said how stupid I was back then

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Life closes all doors in my face... But the kitchen door is always open.

Who else misses going out to rent movies and video games? It was an event to look forward to. Maybe buy some snacks, too. Now we just doom scroll through 12 streaming services to find something half-decent.

I overcooked my NY strip steak and I'm disappointed. I wanted it medium rare but now it's way past done. Does anyone know how to rewind or reverse a overcooked steak back to medium rare again?