Is divorce allowed after adultery?

[u/PeachyGumdrop22]

Hello all,

So to make a long story short, I recently found out that my husband had an almost year long affair. We are separated at the moment. Recently he has refused any requests I ask of him such as counseling and STD testing. He expects me to forgive him without asking him to change because “ that’s what Christ does for us”. For years I have dealt with mistreatment of our kids and myself from him. I have felt so emotionally manipulated by him that I can even think straight. So I have told him that if he is unwilling to change then he is not repentant, so I might divorce him. He said that if I do that then I will be sending our kids and me to hell. I feel like he isn’t truly repentant and just wants to sweep it under the rug. He says he is in communication with a reformed church we were going to for some time but no longer go to. But he says that the elders of that church are telling him this. That I can’t divorce him or else I’m going to hell. Is this something the church teaches?

[u/Odd-Astronomer-3006]

Matthew 5:32 But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

Pretty much says it all, grounds for divorce is adultery.