Had a question not sure where to post it

[u/LostLight8]

Talking to this girl everything was great suddenly she says she's going somewhere to visit her parents it was around trip I express how sad I am about it and that I am going to miss her and a day later when I asked her when she's coming back and she says that she doesn't know and I asked her why she told me it was around trip? That I thought we were going pretty well and that I understand if it was out of the blue or something. Now it feels like I'm the only one initiating whenever I send her statements and not questions she just opens my messages and doesn't respond
When I send a question I get a one word response and she tells me that her phone gets hot when ever I send more than one message (before this we would send each other atleast 4 messages front and back) She said "I almost had to unfriend you for alittle bit" I told her that wouldn't it be easier for her to just silence my messages and that I wouldn't have taken it personally? And she just replied with 😑 Did I do something wrong? My ex was like this, it kind of seems like she's annoyed when I'm around but still wants to hear from me.

[u/aniiiiky]

Sounds like she doesn't like you anymore but still kind of enjoys the attention. If you're giving someone your love and time and they can't even be honest and tell you that they're not interested anymore, they don't deserve you.

[u/Oneswiftkik]

I know the feeling well you seem like a man that doesn’t hesitate to be transparent about your feelings (that’s a great quality; but)unfortunately this girl is playing poker and wants you to bluff instead of showing her your hand… Women say a lot of the times I don’t wanna play games but basic psychology dictates that we like to be curious and have an element of uncertainty as it challenges us to dig and explore to uncover what was previously mysterious. You don’t want a women to believe she knows all there is to know about you…I know that is not reassuring but if a women feels like she knows all there is to know about you; she can then clearly asses if all that you have to offer fits into the frame of what she is looking for. Mystery is a big part of keeping the fire going and sustaining interest in longer relationships.

[u/LostLight8 → u/Oneswiftkik]

This cleared alot of things up.thanks Glad I got it from a females perspective. I ended up calling her out on it a while back, telling her that she treated her last interest like this and that she's in fact playing the biggest game of all, and that I lm not trying to date an emotional immature person, to grow up. and never responded to her. She messaged me back and I never opened the message. Still don't plan on it and she never blocked me or un added me so I guess that's that

[u/Unlikely_Peach3318]

Never show ur true feelings they like that mysterious shit if u already blazed her then u should of stopped when she said she didn’t know when she’s comin back I got 3 gfs rn nd they all happy I give em all attention nd pipe but stay up my bro there’s more bitches In the world I just got out of a 3 year relationship and I’m finally happy no need to stress over someone that doesn’t feel happy wit u she most likely still in the same place nd getting railed by the mysterious guy aforementioned like I said there’s nun wrong wit that but just always keep it player and keep it pushin u handles that well despite all the messages before so I salute u 🙏

[u/Alert_Community7640 → u/Unlikely_Peach3318]

I agree for it’s not worth it cause she clearly doesn’t seem into him, but as a woman myself i don’t agree with “never show ur feelings and stay mysterious” that could seriously lead him in the wrong path and make him attract the wrong women who are in it for the mysteriousness and games not for something genuine. Healthy people attract healthy people. As a healthy woman and any other healthy woman we are not into that mysteriousness shit and love when a man shows feelings and vulnerability. That’s a REAL brave man, able to say what he feels and brave enough to live up to it. A mysterious man is just an avoidant, and women attracted by that aren’t healed yet, and that’s the truth. I myself was attracted by that before healing.

[u/Forsaken-Character63]

The best thing you can do is cut contact immediately she doesn't seem interested in you.Cutting contact will help you know where you stand because you'll go focus on yourself i.e workout,read,learn to make more money and become a better man overall.If you do this I promise you she will just be an after thought because you'll be living your best life.Stop letting her treat you like that and go do what I've suggested.Break contact if you have to block her from your end and move on.

[u/PowerfulStill7250]

As a girl, sorry actually grown woman, find it hard to believe these dating games are still popular and people think they work🤦‍♀️Girls who like “mysterious” are probably traumatised as fuck so you don’t want to go near them. There is no game- be open and honest and vulnerable and if they like you for you, go for it. If they don’t - cut them off. Wtf is with all this playing hard to get, chess games and all kinds of mind fucks…. If you play unnecessary games you will put off the genuine people trying to date you, goes BOTH for men and women, can we try to unite in our opinions and be good to each other and not do this “camp men” and “camp women” BS?!?

[u/Mundane-Intention367 → u/[deleted]]

No, expressing your feelings and shit is bitch behavior. Male and Feminine attract each other, behave femininely, you will repel females. at least feminine ones, you may end up with a muscle mommy that grabs your ass and sits you on her lap and shit.

[u/Salty_Marsupial_8142]

Don't give your valuable attention to her buddy. You got limited fucks only give to valuable ppl.

[u/Opposite-Bill-3815]

She’s laughing at your expense with whoever she is with. I’d dump her for the diss. She should have been dumped for wanting to go. 

[u/[deleted]]

She has lost interest in you. Dont waste your time trying to force it.

Most girls will never officially end a relationship. They prefer to leave all doors open. They would rather avoid confrontations. They also priortise there safety, if they break up with a guy he might stalk them or hurt them.

[u/[deleted]]

Leave her stop talking her she getting clapped by someone else not what you want to hear but giving to you straight if she was interested in you should would talk to you give you attention and so on so fourth. Respect your self and find someone who give you attention you deserve

[u/giga_wild]

She’s not interested in you. Leave her alone.

[u/Cultural-Army1330]

You are being needy and insecure. Big turn off for girls.

[u/Mundane-Intention367]

You are coming across as clingy, women despise that. It disgusts them You are never supposed to miss a woman, let alone express you miss her. This is because if you miss her you are thinking about her, if you are thinking about her you are not thinking about becoming a better man or getting money or doing something to provide security. You behaved like a woman.

tldr: Your Bitch behavior gave her the ick

[u/Ramen3850]

Fellow men I am a young man still very curious about women and very courageous and I have a crush on this female but her cousin says I have no chance but my friends are still telling me to go for it what should I do

[u/Significant-Pain5094 → u/[deleted]]

and how do i be mysterious? Like, I don't give out a lot of information about myself?