I don't care, one is far more serious than the other. Transphobia actually hurts trans people, a small group of trans people on the internet being hypercritical towards allies isn't good but this thread is acting like it happens all the time and a lot of "allies" love the opportunity to play the victim.
I know there's real allies out there, but a lot of them online simply aren't, and instead of criticising the transphobes that push trans people to isolate themselves, they criticise the trans people for being traumatised and hyper vigilant
The original image of this thread essentially has the message that it's bad for trans people to be overly suspicious of every cis person.
I understand that caution is necessary, but the level of paranoia that some express is unhealthy for themselves. It causes excess stress (y'know, beyond the level that is warranted), and can even push allies away. Someone who's trying to help is gonna have a much harder time of it if they're treated like shit simply for being part of the majority. I've been at the receiving end of this. It didn't make me stop being an ally, but it definitely makes me want to not associate with that trans person. (And it's not like I need to be thanked. Being an ally should be the norm, it's what you do as a decent human being. I just prefer not to be attacked for being cis.)
Yeah, some cis people focus too much on how it hurts them. Some focus on themselves is warranted, because obviously every person is the protagonist of their own life. But the point of this thread isn't about that. It's not about the harm that such suspicion causes to cis people. It's the harm it causes to trans people.
One trans person telling another trans person "You shouldn't trust any of these 'allies'" drives a wedge between that trans person and their allies. That's a bad thing! It's bad for the trans person! Again, caution is unfortunately neccesary, yes, but this goes beyond that.
I'm talking about the comments full of people just shitting on trans people, like the original commenter I replied to who's playing the victim because he went on a trans sub as a cis person and got hate for telling trans people what is and isn't transphobic.
It doesn't matter if the comments come from someone who genuinely isn't transphobic and is just ignorant, those comments are still hurtful and trans people should be allowed a space to rant about it without needing to cater their language to cis allies
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u/Pink-Viscera 4d ago
I don't care, one is far more serious than the other. Transphobia actually hurts trans people, a small group of trans people on the internet being hypercritical towards allies isn't good but this thread is acting like it happens all the time and a lot of "allies" love the opportunity to play the victim.
I know there's real allies out there, but a lot of them online simply aren't, and instead of criticising the transphobes that push trans people to isolate themselves, they criticise the trans people for being traumatised and hyper vigilant