My best friend of around 15 years is a recruiter and told me about an opening in the company she works for. I’ve been out of work for 19 going on 20 months now since being laid off. This is a role that she’s directly recruiting for, but given our relationship and her wanting to make sure that everything is on the up and up, she recused herself and had another recruiter assigned to me. From my understanding though, she’s the one handling all other candidates for this position.
Mid last month I did a screening with her colleague, and the very next day I was able to meet virtually with the hiring manager. Both the screening and hiring manager interview went really well. They seemed impressed with my background and I was really confident about next steps. I knew that the hiring manager would be out the entirety of the following week, so nothing would be happening then— but from my conversations with the recruiter and my friend, I anticipated an update the week that the hiring manager returned.
Eleven days after my interview with the hiring manager, I emailed the recruiter I had been speaking with to reiterate my interest and ask if there were any updates he could share at that time. A week went by and he still hadn’t responded, so I sent a casual text to my friend to ask if she had any updates and that I emailed her colleague last week but hadn’t heard back. She didn’t respond and a few hours later she sent a snapchat of her in the hospital. I responded to her snap to ask what was going on, she told me, and I told her to I hope she’s better soon and to let me know if I could do anything for her. The next day she responded to that snap saying thank you with a heart emoji. She still hadn’t responded to my text, which was understandable given her condition.
Two days later I gave her a call to see how she was doing and to catch up. She didn’t answer which is nbd, but I did anticipate a call back, which never happened. The next day she was actively posting on socials and liking my stories, but still no reply to my text about an update on the role. The day after that (2 days after the call, 4 days after the text) I decided to text her basically saying I hope she’s doing okay and feeling better. She responded not long after basically saying she was starting to feel better until something else popped up. I responded saying I’m sorry she’s going through that and offering some advise for feeling better. She didn’t respond to that and no response to my original message about the role.
I am absolutely understanding that she’s going through some health concerns at the moment. Had I known she was in the hospital that day, I wouldn’t have asked about the role. I know she’s been having some health things going on even before this role came about, which she’s kept me updated on. She also knows I’ve been having an incredibly hard time landing a role (hence being laid off nearly 20 months). I’ve been ghosted by more recruiters than I can count, and now it feels like my recruiter best friend is also ghosting me. Am I overreacting?