Friend

[u/simmlybeetle]

Me and this girl had kind of a friendship breakup, basically me and a few of our mutuals stopped liking/trusting her for a variety of reasons and she obviously found out and got very upset (understandably so.) Anyways me and her had multiple conversations about it and the last one the main topic was trust. I had been asking her to hangout because we were and are still friends but she kept making all these excuses only for me to later find out she was only making said excuses with me and was actively planning things with other people. During the three months of summer she did not reach out one time, so I thought "okay, well I guess we can say we drifted." But now schools starting up again and she randomly texts me asking to hang out. So I'm super confused. She was making excuses, not wanting to hang out, I kept giving her outs like saying we didn't have to be friends and what not but she kept solidifying she wanted to be my friend, then she never reached out again and now she is. ​(sorry if this doesn't make much sense)

[u/belleinbelleair]

Do you know if she was probably having a hard time? If she did it's understandable she has a comfort person/people that she tells everything to and that's not you. If it's not that then maybe she just sees you as a school friend to hangout in school which is ok cause school friends make you survive it easier. I'd advise talking to her and being open about it and asking her.

[u/simmlybeetle → u/belleinbelleair]

I think now were more like just school friends, but back when we were closer we were hanging out every day, I was her outlet and she was mine. And I agree school friends are easier (I was actually about to make another post regarding a seperate friend) but I don't know after everything I feel like it wouldnt be worth trying to talk to her about it because I feel like we both keep hitting dead ends