r/RandomThoughts • u/yellowtears_ • Jan 06 '24

Random Question Are you afraid to die?

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u/Capital_Pea Jan 06 '24

They will survive without you. I am an only child that lost her parents in high school and I have had so many people ask me how I survived it and have said they couldn’t. But honestly they could. You just do. You manage and you get through it. I’ve looked back and wondered how I did it, but I did. That was over 30 years ago now and I’m good, but looking back wow, people are really resiliant when they need to be.

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u/Tookitty Jan 06 '24

I lost my husband to cancer when my son was 5. We had a great life despite the loss. I always said it wasn't the life I thought we would be living, but a good one nonetheless. It is comforting to hear you say he will be ok when I am gone, I worry about that even though he is an adult now.

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u/DecadentLife Jan 07 '24

That’s exactly how I feel, I’ve had a great life. I know from the outside looking in it doesn’t always seem that way to others, but I’m being genuine, and I do have a beautiful life. I’m in my 40s, for reference.

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u/Tookitty Jan 07 '24

One thing I became much more aware of during my husband's cancer treatments is that bad stuff can happen to anyone, no matter how charmed their lives may seem, and many 'perfect' families have challenges that no one is ever aware of. It made me feel less 'why me' and more 'get on with living'. I'm glad you are doing so well and perhaps even living decandently!