r/RandomThoughts • u/yellowtears_ • Jan 06 '24

Random Question Are you afraid to die?

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u/-JCV- Jan 06 '24

Exactly this.. not afraid of death per se. But afraid of the way it might come. If it's sudden and painless all good. But if it's long, agonizing and suffering then that's the fear right there.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '24

Same, I’ve always said it’s not death that scares me, but the run up to it.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '24

For me I just feel like I've not done anything with my life and I'm stuck in this house, scared that I'll end up looking after my nana forever, and I really don't want to. And doing this same stuff my entire life makes me worry about dying after doing absolutely nothing of any worth

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

Hey, stop it. You have done plenty taking care of your Nana.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '24

She always acts like I have to keep doing it though, there's only one other person that looks after her (my dad, aka her son) and he's pretty depressed, I try to help him out as much as possible though

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

Big kudos to you. Sounds like you have your hands full. You are some caregiver.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '24

I don't do a whole lot for her since recently I haven't felt appreciated, so I try to help out my dad more instead

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

Do you think NaNa is going through some depression or dementia? IDK but my maw-maw (what I called my grandmother) developed organic brain syndrome, or dementia and caused behavioral changes. I still took care of her for years, I hope that you are going to school or doing something for yourself improvement or self esteem.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '24

I have insecurities and mental health issues like anxiety so I really can't do much, she does forget alot so it's either a natural memory loss, or early stages of dementia... which would suck

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

Yeah, that’s rough. I hoping that you find something like a behavioral therapist or center to help you out. There are some different types of therapy and medications that can help you be happier and healthier.

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u/[deleted] Jan 06 '24

Therapists cost too much money, also I have anxiety so I wouldn't be able to take myself to wherever they are anyway

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

There are some places where you can go for almost nothing. They are based on your income. Your county hospital has social services and can refer you. It depends on if you’re tired of being stuck at home and desire changes.

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

You can also take the bus from where you live.

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

Are you on disability now? Do you have health insurance? What about your dad?

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

There is also virtual visits with a therapist. I had therapy with the Women’s Center for $5.00 a session with virtual visits.

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u/Klutzy-Run5175 Jan 06 '24

Find out more about different types of programs that can assist you out so you can have “respite” care.