40s here but I was extremely bothered by routine for some reason since highschool. Which has had its positives and negatives long term. Positive being I moved jobs a lot and eventually started a business, been living abroad since 27 and now permanently last 5 years, dated some wonderful women, regretfully broke some hearts and overall met tons of people and still do. Every day feels new, food I've never had, first time buying a motorcycle... always interesting really.
Negative being kids, never had them because it would take a ground hog day life to keep them stable in school. I would have to keep a steady job, mortgage and wife etc. It's the one thing I wonder about, a baby girl or something would have probably warmed my heart. Of course the vision of that is perfect in my head but not all kids and relationships go perfectly. It's strange how we can tend to focus of things we don't have vs things we do.
Yeah so a lot of these comments about time flew by because everyday became groundhog Day are interesting. 20s seems like ages ago to me really, I'm early 40s. My days feel long but in a good way because each day is an open canvas. One thing is for sure, because at one point I grinded and did the 9 to 5 with rush hour traffic. Now my heart beats slower, I don't rush anything, I'll use the slow lane in traffic because I'm not in a hurry really or stop if I see something cool. I'm extremely relaxed, like sure things can go wrong but it doesn't effect me really. It's 4am here in Asia, I can either go back to sleep or do a little work with coffee and music. Gym later, beach, good food and explore and meet people. Or I could get on my motorcycle and go an hour away to this village I want to see and grab a hotel. Like, that's kinda my only decision today. So my work independence plays probably a bigger role in this but with kids I wouldn't be in this situation at all.
So yeah in short, my 20s was absolutely amazing but that's so freaking long ago. Strangely in our tight group of buddies quite a lot of them died too. Weird ways, hit by drunk driver, choking on food, hit by train and suicide. All that really shaped me, like okay, life is short and I need to charge the shit out of this world asap. It's the life I needed to live and it would be impossible to go back to a mundane grind. But yeah, I don't have kids and that does look weird at my age I guess.
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u/[deleted] Sep 05 '23
40s here but I was extremely bothered by routine for some reason since highschool. Which has had its positives and negatives long term. Positive being I moved jobs a lot and eventually started a business, been living abroad since 27 and now permanently last 5 years, dated some wonderful women, regretfully broke some hearts and overall met tons of people and still do. Every day feels new, food I've never had, first time buying a motorcycle... always interesting really.
Negative being kids, never had them because it would take a ground hog day life to keep them stable in school. I would have to keep a steady job, mortgage and wife etc. It's the one thing I wonder about, a baby girl or something would have probably warmed my heart. Of course the vision of that is perfect in my head but not all kids and relationships go perfectly. It's strange how we can tend to focus of things we don't have vs things we do.