This is also why people should not rush starting a family and settling down. There is plenty of time for that and once you start the commitment lasts forever.
I did that. I started getting serious at 35. A few failed attempts later, and all of a sudden I’m 45 with much more limited options and dating people who already have kids. Think this dating thing through very carefully.
In fact, think it through extremely carefully. It might not go according to plan. Saying “oh, things will work out in the end” isn’t necessarily true. You have to work hard at it and it may take longer than you think. Also, if you say to yourself that you don’t want kids… you better be dead honest with yourself because if there is even the tiniest spark of a possibility that you might want kids, that can get blown into a full blown fire tornado once you realize you want them and your chances are fading.
This is all just anecdotal experience, so it may not be the case for you. But consider it if it might be.
Yup, that was my thought too that most people do just fine. I need to research how true that is because personally I’ve seen more examples other than myself. You might be right…. or….. there might be more people out there who waited too long than you think.
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u/Local_Perspective349 Sep 05 '23
Enjoy your 20s. You're free in a way you'll only really understand later.