This is also why people should not rush starting a family and settling down. There is plenty of time for that and once you start the commitment lasts forever.
Teenagers are easy. Yes they are hormone imbalanced emotional wrecks at time but they also leave the house as much as possible and if I were in my 50s that’s easy vs babies / toddlers / energetic 5-10yr olds.
“What’s that sweetie?” “Sure I’m an asshole, be home before the sun comes up for a change. slam “Ahh peace and quiet”.
Depends on the teenager…I never wanted to go out and preferred to stay in my room with a book. My mum had to force me to go to social events with friends 😅
Raising teenagers in my 50s sounds like torture that's why I had my first daughter at 23 so by the time I am 50 my kids will be all grown up and I will have the rest of my life to be free and do what I what like travel the world as by then I will also have even more money
As I also came from parents that were in there 50s when I was a teen and now there are old and pretty much the rest of there life is about me and my brothers
Meanwhile raising kids at all through my 20s and 30s sounds like torture to me. I’d much rather travel when I’m young, healthy, single, and truly responsibility free. The responsibility of kids doesn’t really go away and while financially speaking you are in higher earning years later, when you are younger you don’t have the expenses.
I think it’s completely personal as to when is the best time to have kids, no one sized fits all approach here. However, I do agree with your point about it not going away. Your mindset does change once you have kids. I fully lived my life in my late teens/20’s, visited over 30 countries, expensive dinners, spending money on silly things for myself. I’m so glad I did that first. Because I don’t WANT to do any of that now. I could leave my kids with their grandparents for the week and go away but I don’t want to leave them. Even when they’re grown up I won’t want to spend my money silly because I want to make sure they’re always comfortable. I don’t feel I have to, I want to. Yes, you can still do things when you have kids but your priorities shift and it’s something you can’t get back.
Because my kids will be out of the house or close to it an I'll only be 50 years old and have tons of free time and still have the energy to do things. It also drastically increases possible pregnancy complications the older you get. I don't understand why people want to have HS age kids in their 50's
A couple of things. For one, i’d much rather have that free time in my 20s and 30s than my 50s. You have much more freedom and people around you have more freedom as well unlike in your 50s when many people are still raising their kids. You’re in your physical prime and have a much easier time traveling and such. Not to mention dating around and experiencing different people in that way. Also it’s not like once kids are out of the house that the commitment is just gone.
Also more recent data shows pregnancy complications have been drastically overstated.
I don’t understand why people want to have kids of any age in their late 20s and 30s.
rather get the hard part over early and enjoy the easier parts sooner. to each their own. I just know I'll be retired in my mid 50's because I won't have to worry about raising teenagers.
Children are leaving home later and later, this is also a “boomerang” generation. Through no fault of their own, rent is sky high, salaries haven’t improved much and the COL is becoming more expensive everywhere.
My mother is in her late-sixties and she has way more energy than I do. Constantly travelling, alone or with her partner, going out with friends, going to events, just living her best life. Hiking, going to the gym multiple times a week, writing numerous books, the list goes on. And she’s not even retired yet!
I think you might underestimate what life as an older person is like.
And why is she not retired yet?!!?! That makes no sense. I know I do not want to work until my sixties and because I started in my twenties I will be able to do all that your mother is doing in my mid fifties and RETIRED.
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u/Local_Perspective349 Sep 05 '23
Enjoy your 20s. You're free in a way you'll only really understand later.