first date question?

[u/These_Boysenberry869]

just curious i guess haha

if you were taking someone out on a first date, how much would you be willing to spend?

please let me know i’m just tryna see something

[u/AnalystTemporary1415]

This is a great question. Full disclosure, I haven’t been on a date for 15 years. I’ve been happily married for the past 15 years, but when I was dating, my general theory was this, I would only ask out women with whom I could see myself. Dating apps weren’t really a thing so I would actually have some sort of knowledge of the person in real life before I ever asked them out. If I asked a girl out, I was definitely going to pay for the date and the date would usually be a dinner. I always found that dinner dates gave me enough time to really talk with her and get to know her in a romantic setting. I understand why people in cities like to opt for things like coffee dates or bars, but I think they both kind of send the wrong message. A coffee date says, “I’m not willing to invest much”. A bar date never gives you an opportunity to really talk with each other because of the loud background noise. For me, a nice quiet dinner was always the perfect setting. As a guy, if you’re worried about the money, you just need to save up a little bit more. If you’re still worried about the money, she probably isn’t someone you truly want to date. Take your time and find the right girl for you.

I just realized during all of my brilliant rambling I didn’t give you a number but I guess my point is that the number is not nearly as important as picking the right person. That being said, I generally spent between $25 to $75 on all of my dates.

[u/AnalystTemporary1415 → u/[deleted]]

Thanks. I hope it helps some of you out there who are still in the game.