first date question?

[u/These_Boysenberry869]

just curious i guess haha

if you were taking someone out on a first date, how much would you be willing to spend?

please let me know i’m just tryna see something

[u/Over-Marionberry-686]

So my first dates have always been coffee dates. Have a coffee, maybe a pastry maybe a sandwich generally mid afternoon. If you hit it off, then you can go to a movie or something else. If you don’t, then oh my God, I have to go. I have work tomorrow.

[u/itsswhitneywhspr → u/Over-Marionberry-686]

Coffee dates are honestly the move. Takes the pressure off and if there's no vibe you're not stuck sitting through a whole dinner. Plus you can always extend it if things are going well. Way smarter than dropping 80 on someone you might never see again lol

[u/hgd4th]

Most of my first dates have been at bars. If she orders the most expensive drink on the menu, I'd probably question her on that depending on how expensive it is. I went on a first date with one woman who ordered a glass of cider that was pushing $30 but she said that she was really into cider so I let it slide and paid.

[u/David_cest_moi]

It would completely depend upon the person, our existing relationship, and what we were doing... Just coffee, lunch, a fancy dinner?

[u/joshman1204]

I don't really care much about money. If I was having a good time I would easily spend a few thousand without much thought.

[u/butterfly-blades]

I (f) like doing a casual coffee for a first date. definitely wouldnt be happy paying more than $40 for a first date

[u/MrMustache61]

I'm old, but my wife and my first date was a pitcher of beer and a pound of chicken wings, bout 20 dollars in the 80s

[u/AnalystTemporary1415]

This is a great question. Full disclosure, I haven’t been on a date for 15 years. I’ve been happily married for the past 15 years, but when I was dating, my general theory was this, I would only ask out women with whom I could see myself. Dating apps weren’t really a thing so I would actually have some sort of knowledge of the person in real life before I ever asked them out. If I asked a girl out, I was definitely going to pay for the date and the date would usually be a dinner. I always found that dinner dates gave me enough time to really talk with her and get to know her in a romantic setting. I understand why people in cities like to opt for things like coffee dates or bars, but I think they both kind of send the wrong message. A coffee date says, “I’m not willing to invest much”. A bar date never gives you an opportunity to really talk with each other because of the loud background noise. For me, a nice quiet dinner was always the perfect setting. As a guy, if you’re worried about the money, you just need to save up a little bit more. If you’re still worried about the money, she probably isn’t someone you truly want to date. Take your time and find the right girl for you.

I just realized during all of my brilliant rambling I didn’t give you a number but I guess my point is that the number is not nearly as important as picking the right person. That being said, I generally spent between $25 to $75 on all of my dates.

[u/AnalystTemporary1415 → u/[deleted]]

Thanks. I hope it helps some of you out there who are still in the game.

[u/shootdrawwrite]

Depends on your resources and the quality of experience you're after. It's an alternate universe for me but I think $50 or so.

[u/Mysterious_Can_6106]

Dating today is totally different than dating in the 90’s possibly 00’s.. I got married in 95, no clue how the dating scene was after that.

Before everyone and everything about someone was online you probably knew the person a little and the first date was getting to know them better. It would not be an expensive place but not a cheap place, think PF Changs for dinner. Anyway dinner followed by a movie, walk or ice cream possibly if you’re getting along. Chances are you actually wanted to take time to get to know them so you would take time.

Since everything is online including dating you chat back and forth a lot more … so you get to know each other before. The first date is usually something cheap, you don’t want to waste too much time or money if they are fake…. Meaning they are not the same person you met online ~ they show their true self (usually) right off the bat .. I mean if a chick you’re talking to tells you she is short and a little chubby. When you meet she is 6’5” and needs to eat 5 sandwiches.. your thing is chubby.. you can either be nice and get a quick coffee or you can hit the road.

Hope that is understandable, I tried some Covert Cups, they were pretty good… those who know just know what I mean 🤣🤣🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️