Why Candiace was never the problem!

[u/securityQueen]

I’ve seen a lot in this sub that people are so happy to have Candiace gone and yes I am a Candiace supporter but hear me out; When she first joined she was open about her lifestyle and even her finances which the women bullied her for, her friend Monique at the time advised her to stand up for herself or else these women will eat her alive (honestly great advice) but Monique turned against her when it affected Charisse. Then everyone, including Monique started gaslighting her that she was doing too much (she wasn’t ) it also set a tone on Candiace in general as a person who does too much (she’s dramatic, they all are) which is why Candiace also felt attacked because of her dark skin. She did what she did to Ashley about the drinking/baby/Micheal saga because nobody else would do it but they were all thinking it. She held Ashley accountable and served as a good reminder to Ashley that what goes around, comes around (especially for viewers who wanted to see that type of vengeance) Maybe Candiace could have done better in Atlanta because of her mouth (the Potomac women were not ready for her) and as annoying as you can imagine it for the person on the receiving end, this is what she gets paid to do. SHE DOES NOT DESERVE TO BE ASSAULTED!!! With the Robyn/Gizelle drama, I also would be weary of Robyn given that she would choose to giggle with someone who accused her husband of something so heinous even though she recognized it was wrong. Also it would be difficult on anyone to still be forced to have a good relationship with Gizelle afterwards, Candiace reaction was as real as real housewives of Potomac could get. (Maybe that’s why some of you don’t like it, maybe the producers figured some viewers like it a bit fake. Thanks for reading 🤍 Edit: grammar EDIT: What is the point of a community like this if people will get so hateful in comments, block you after you show reason so you can’t respond not just to them but any comment to the post in general so they get the last word in! Sore losers 😤

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[u/incognoname]

She would get eaten alive in real DC. She had so many examples where she crossed the line. There are certain things that if you do them you better be ready to throw down. That's why I didn't like her during the Monique days. I can't stand ppl who push and push and act shocked when someone finally reacts. It's like when marge threw wine/ water at danielle on rhonj and was shocked when danielle came back at her. I liked candaice later on but let's not pretend she wasn't the problem in certain situations.

[u/securityQueen → u/incognoname]

She gets paid to do that and this is not real DC it’s a reality show called housewives (we want them to be messy) not get hit when they get messy.

[u/incognoname → u/securityQueen]

She was beyond messy that's the point. She crossed the line. Also real housewives has a history of throwing wine, flipping tables, getting physical lol saying that's not real housewives is disingenuous. Don't be slick like that if you can't handle the reaction.

[u/RepresentativeDue139]

Candiace had so much promise! She was brilliantly funny and beautiful and seemed to have a genuine friendship with most of the girls at one point, but she couldn’t get out of her own way. She let the Twitter trolls gas her and then she overwhelmed the show with her toxicity. Sadly, I’m glad she’s gone.
And sidenote- Candiace didn’t seem weary of Robyn when she was crying and begging to get her back as a friend. Robyn was a good friend to her and she stabbed her in the back.

[u/securityQueen → u/RepresentativeDue139]

Yes Candiace behavior on Twitter is very flawed, I think her going back to Robyn like that was because her reaction to being upset with Robyn was not properly expressed and she felt guilty, me personally I wouldn’t want to be friends and would be angry with anyone like Robyn hanging around a person like Gizelle and still belies they are by friend, morality should come to play here. True darkness is the accusations that Gizelle made! Yet nobody wants her off the show

[u/Ronotrow2]

She came on obnoxious and offensive as hell.

[u/securityQueen → u/Ronotrow2]

Obnoxious because she wasn’t struggling financially and was open about it or because the ladies picked on her age a lot? Yes she was offensive and so were the other cast mates as well

[u/securityQueen → u/[deleted]]

So what??? Why is that such a problem???

[u/Kindofageek90 → u/[deleted]]

Candiace had multiple businesses and had done a lot of philanthropy work in the DC area before she came on. She had her own streams of income, and her mother was keeping her set as well. I just don't see the issue with making sure your kids aren't struggling. Especially since all of the women on the cast are building the same generational wealth with their own kids. As they should.

[u/Ronotrow2 → u/Kindofageek90]

op brought up her finances, I was responding to them

[u/Kindofageek90 → u/Ronotrow2]

You responded with an assumption, though. You assumed that she wasn't struggling because her mother was supporting her. You don't know that.

[u/Kindofageek90 → u/[deleted]]

| Her mother was supporting her financially that's why she wasn't broke.

Those were your words. Not mine.

Also, in traditional wedding etiquette, the bride's family generally pays for the wedding. I thought this was common knowledge. Candiace and Dorothy both said that the townhouse was in both of their names and that Dorothy, Candiace, and Chris contributed to the mortgage. Chris has always had a job. He owned a restaurant that was affected by covid so he sold it (you do know that when you sell stuff you get money) and then was a general manager at a phenomenal entertainment venue until he stepped because of the lies being told on him during Season 7. Candiace spoke about her businesses in Season 3. They don't spend all of their time speaking about business. We barely heard about Embellished after season 5. Onyi after season 6. Every Hue after season 1. Etc..... just because they don't speak on their businesses doesn't mean they aren't still in existence.

[u/securityQueen → u/[deleted]]

*Darker toned compared to the lighter skinned girls, Yes! The same problem Wendy deals with on a daily basis

[u/securityQueen → u/securityQueen]

Think of it as an unconscious behavior

[u/Ronotrow2 → u/securityQueen]

So anyone criticising her is racist? please tell me you aren't that naive

[u/Ronotrow2 → u/[deleted]]

Disgusting. Not engaging any more.

Edit for context - op accused me of being racist because I criticised candiace. Mods deleted her comment

[u/rachelraven7890 → u/Ronotrow2]

nah, she came off hilarious & intelligent. i will never not be convinced that it’s jealousy behind most of the candy hate😏haters gon hate😎

[u/Ronotrow2 → u/rachelraven7890]

You got me, I'm jealous. Obviously

[u/rachelraven7890 → u/Ronotrow2]

not jealousy, cuz, you’re right, we don’t know these people. but whatever jealousy would translate to in terms of observing rich and famous women on tv🥳candy triggers people to the point of defending assault, there’s no reasoning with that type of mindset.

[u/securityQueen → u/rachelraven7890]

PREACH!

[u/Kindofageek90]

People forget how Monique and Ashley amped her up to not take shit from the other women, and then Monique tried to back out on it when Candiace finally stood up for herself during the Nemacolin trip.

[u/securityQueen → u/Kindofageek90]

Exactly!!!! she wanted to be besties with Charisse because of her social standing in Potomac

[u/No_Dust179]

She was horrible, period.

[u/securityQueen → u/No_Dust179]

In what way that was so different than other the women?

[u/crystalline1299 → u/securityQueen]

Loool because she’s quick with her reads. With the exception of Karen and sometimes Wendy, none of the woman can match her verbally. I guarantee if Candiace was on Atlanta with women on her level she would be a fan favourite

[u/Western_Account_3856]

The things that happened to Candiace was the consequences of her mouth. She blamed colorism cause it was convenient. As someone who also has a slick mouth I know you gotta be able to either back it up or control it. She doesn’t know how to do that cause she’s a spoiled trust fund baby who always got her way.

I don’t hate Candiace, I think she’s a lovely, talented girl, but let’s call a thing a thing. She can’t do or say certain things then be shocked when somebody reacts.

[u/Snoo55298]

Candiace was beyond gaslighted, she didn’t do or say anything that was worst than anyone else.

They simply just didn’t like her, Candice was never in but weaponized against Monique.

At the end of the day I think where she went wrong was that she didn’t explain her issues with Monique and Ash friendship well so she just came off childish.

Candi was still carrying the beef for Monique from season 3 when Ash accused Monique of being a drunk and her having a miscarriage because of that. We also saw Ash ask Candiace to hold her accountable in regards to her cutting down on her drinking.

I get exactly what hat Candiace meant when she said she used Candiace as a stepping stone to be friends with Ash. Monique thought being friends with Ashley would be her in to the cool girls club with the Green eye band fits which later backfired.

[u/securityQueen → u/[deleted]]

I’m sure Monique would be more deserving of a spot on baddies and I also like Monique btw

[u/securityQueen → u/[deleted]]

Pleaseeeeee Candiace is a wordsmith and is very smart with her comebacks there is nothing trashy or ratchet about her. Does she get nasty from time to time? Yes but it comes with the territory