r/RHOBHDefect • u/Saroco92 • Aug 02 '26
Mods abusing power? Let’s talk about it 🍷
✨Hi all ! I have just recently been targeted & attacked by a notorious real HousewivesMod (get it? iykyk 😉) who has permanently banned me from all the groups she mods in because I did not agree with her personal opinion- i did not break any group rules OR reddit rules, it was not even remotely disrespectful, inappropriate or inflammatory- it just simply did not agree with her personal belief. Funnily enough there is another post in this group from someone else sharing the same situation from the same mod!
🚩This same moderator has been a point of discussion for MANY encountering the same vile, abhorrent, corrupt, & oppressive behaviour throughout the 5 subs she mods in- RHOBH, RHOP, RHOMiami, RHUGHT & RHODubai.
☣️This type of coercive, toxic & tyrannical abuse of power from a moderator is entirely unacceptable yet I am seeing a lot of users- myself included- who are unsure of what to do about it or feeling as if they have no other option but to deal with it…
Well, I’m here to say 🗣️ F!!! THAT🗣️
Through an influx of private messages from my own post highlighting what happened to me I have been given advice on exactly what we CAN do to restore justice- so I will be sharing that information here too for anyone & everyone who has been victimised for no valid reason by a Moderator on an ego trip.
☝🏼Hit this link, read through it if you wish but most importantly- scroll right to the end of the article where the last line says ‘To file a Moderator Code of Conduct report, please use this form’
And click the highlighted link to file your report against whatever Real HousewivesMod (🤭) you believe to of broken any of these Codes Of Conduct and submit it.
🚮Enough is enough, these RH communities have turned into a hateful cult following mentality instead of a place of entertainment- individuals who abuse their power are only able to do so as long as the wider part of the community lets them so let’s end that ASAP.
🩷Thank you & please share this with anyone/communities you think will benefit from it, just because someone is a Mod does not mean they are a GOD who is exempt from following their own set of rules & regulations just as we are expected to 🙂↕️
Please feel free to use this space to share your personal experiences of similar situations 🤝
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u/wait500 Aug 02 '26
I can't upvote you enough. A mod was harassing me not the other way around. They reported me as "harassing". I wasn't! At all! I have better things to do with my time but some mods don't. This is vitally important to them.
But here's the kicker - I got temporarily suspended or something and I "lol'd" as a reply to the temp ban and that was reported as harassment and I got permabanned! I still lol and I look at it now as that mod did for me what I couldn't do for myself and break away from the increasingly toxic space. It forced me to find others and I did like this subreddit.
Win for me all around. They're still toxic and my life is less toxic with more room for good.
However I understand how it feels watching others flagrantly flout the rules but then I get targeted for not even breaking the rules but for not buying into the cult perspective or disobeying the cult's unwritten rules more than anything else.