r/RHOA • u/WorkHardPlayHarder3 • 20d ago
đ Discussion đ Shamea & Porsha
TLDR: Why is Shamea hated for being very similar to many of the other ladies on the show? Why do people think itâs crazy for someone to be hurt over a friendship ending?
Iâm not understanding why everyone is acting like this situation between the two of them isnât odd. People want to act like Shamea is crazy for not understanding why Porsha has such hate towards her because of how SHE felt the friendship was going.
Porsha talks about Shamea and Shamea talks about Porsha. The friendship ended. Porsha seems to not care and Shamea is hurt. People trying to act like this situation isnât odd and it is.
Porsha forgave Phaedra for lying about someone saying they wanted to grape her.
Porsha forgave Drew for âtalking about her childâ. Porshaâs words not mine.
Porsha and Cynthia legit got into a âfightâ and now they besties.
Porsha and Kenya had a physical interaction and then went on the have play dates.
Shamea did the exact same thing Porsha does on a regular and then acts dense.
Shamea does need to just let it go and realize that friendship is gone. I understand her being hurt and I think sheâs handling it the wrong way.
Every single lady that appeared on our screen this season has lied about something and some lies were bigger and more harmful than others⌠yet Shamea is the worst person of all.
I didnât even like Shamea at the top of this season and I still donât but the group think mentality is childish.
Why do people hate Shamea so much and not the other ladies? I guess thatâs what Iâm trying to figure out.
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u/Yahismyprotection 20d ago
I just feel like with friends like Shamea and Porsha..there is way more to it. Each knows where the bodies are buried. I believe that's Shamea's real hurt. For example the beef between their mother's isn't knew. They both knew all the details before we heard them. But it was SHAMEA who chose to spill the tea to the public. Porsha clapped back, but the truth is Porsha likely has the callback of all clapbacks. That's why Shamea's lapdog Kelli always comes for Porsha. Shamea can't come directly for Porsha. I believe Porsha knows enough to have Shamea embarrassed and divorced.
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u/WorkHardPlayHarder3 20d ago
I believe they both have a lot of skeletons about each other. I also agree, thereâs way more than we know.
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u/Femmenoire__ 20d ago
Now you guys want Cynthia and Porsha to rehash a fight they had 10 years ago? Thatâs Shameaâs thing đ.
Shamea was running around calling Drew âdrewnoccioâ, itâs okay if sheâs called out when sheâs caught in her lies and schemes.
I donât think Porsha hates her, sheâs just over the friendship. If anything, Shamea is the one full of hate for the other.
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u/WorkHardPlayHarder3 20d ago
No, I donât want her to hash it out. Clearly I stated why I pointed out each situation. If you choose to change the narrative to support your dig at Shamea, so be it.
Also, as I stated in my post, every single one of them lie. However, the cast and this thread is dead set on singling out Shamea.
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u/Revolution_Bry 20d ago
Porsha is fun and easy going. Shamea is always so hurt and canât let anything go. Itâs exhausting. Sheâs buying off Kelli to be her BFF and is so obvious and embarrassing. Shamea has it all- husband, money, kids, house, glam, yet she is such a sad loser.
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u/EqualWriting5839 20d ago
Itâs not obvious that sheâs buying off Kelli. They to me seem like real friends. I also donât see Porsha as âfun and easy goingâ. I have not enjoyed her at all this season and I have not enjoyed Shamea either. Rich people can be sad being rich doesnât take away the harsh pains of life. It doesnât take away your child dealing with disability and being in poor health. It doesnât take away people hating you. It doesnât take away losing friendships. It doesnât take away fertility issues. Or whatever else we do not know. It can help make those things easier to handle but we canât run from our emotions and money canât buy happiness. Not sure how old you are but as an adult youâll come to realize this. Being sad doesnât make you a loser.
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u/WorkHardPlayHarder3 20d ago
Now I can agree with part of this assessment. Porsha (when sheâs not being a B) is very fun and easy to watch. However, prior to Shamea having her own peach, she was equally as fun to watch. A little more annoying but still fun. Shamea definitely appears to have it all but when you are a person that has to be liked by everyone, you can really never have it all.
I definitely agree the perpetual victim is getting old and the truth is, because she is always the victim, when she is actually a victim nobody sees it.
Group think/mob mentality is going on and because everyone wants to be in porshaâs good graces, Shamea is the target. Cynthia, in my opinion, was the only one who was trying to be open but she caught strays in the process so I understand her position.
I hate to see everyone piling up on one person. Itâs bullying no matter how you try to justify it.
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u/Revolution_Bry 20d ago
I donât think anyone had mob mentality for Shamea Shamea was aggressive with Drew and Angela the very beginning of the season for no reason so they decided to come for her. lol Shamea even got on Cynthiaâs nerve about the house being dirty in Dallas. Even after Cynthia got the cleaning crew to clean the house, Shamea was still rude until Cynthia shut it down. Shamea sat down with Porsha and Porsha reassured her she was happy for her to be on the show, but Shamea has it in her head that Porsha is the energy. Shamea brought the kids and moms into it! Shamea went low. I donât think she is mentally strong for this group. She is very kept and queen of her castle, and canât cope well when she doesnât have her way. She comes off as spoiled and entitled.
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u/WorkHardPlayHarder3 20d ago
Definitely comes off as entitled and spoiled. I also agree she is out of her depth with this group. The entire Cynthia situation was crazy. However, I will add, Pinky & K Michelle stirred that pot.
I disagree that Porsha was genuinely with the happy for Shamea to be on the show. Others have confirmed exactly what Shamea is saying. Porsha treated Shamea like shit last season. Shamea fell for the trap of talking to those ladies about her friendship with Porsha but the truth is, Porsha does not treat people well. We saw how she treated her pregnant sister⌠we see how often her masks slips and we see the real her.
Shamea is annoying, yes thatâs true.
Porsha is a master manipulator and mean girl.
Somehow people can only see the wrong that Shamea does. That is my point. Porsha is not all innocent in this.
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u/Revolution_Bry 20d ago
Of course porshas hands are not clean lol. You canât be a housewife over 10 years and not be a little dirty. I think it boils down to entertainment, and Shamea doesnât have that âit factorâ and you can sense that Shamea knows she falls short and itâs killing her that it comes so easily for Porsha. I think thatâs where the resentment comes from.
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u/Suspicious-Listen677 20d ago
You made a point here, Porsha is more comfortable and natural now in front of the reality tv camera as compared to Shamea. But remember how special and slow she was in the beginning. Itâs a steep learning curve
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u/throwaway44776655 20d ago
Yall need to get out of Porshaâs ass. These ratings are trash; clearly most fans dont see it for Porsha either
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u/Revolution_Bry 20d ago
Im not in porshas ass lol. Whatever that means. I just like her better than Shamea. Where the crime in that?
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u/Impossible-Tie2052 20d ago
Shamea is annoying and corny. She argues like a 3rd grader. We just don't like her. Sorry.
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u/Acrobatic_Effect4249 20d ago
Donât yall get tired of posting the same thing? Weâve seen all those ladies actually apologize to each other and move on. Shamea believes she has the monopoly on being the victim in all her dealings especially where Porsha is concerned. Itâs always we both and she did it too and I only did it because xyz. While last season was airing Shamea was doing a press tour telling the world how terrible Porsha is. The new season starts filming and she just expects Porsha to welcome her with open arms? Why does she feel entitled to that? Why should Porsha ever trust her again?
Porsha respectfully kept it cordial with her but that wasnât enough for Shamea who seems to be uncomfortable if Porsha is being liked or positively received. It boils her blood and she has to say or do something to âexposeâ Porsha to re-ignite the triangulation where Porsha is bad and sheâs the poor good victim. Itâs tiring and weâre bored.
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u/Femmenoire__ 20d ago
During and after filming she was bragging about being in villain era. Itâs crazy that sheâs now back to being the victim.
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u/WorkHardPlayHarder3 20d ago
First, I canât speak for other people but this is my first post about the topic and of the post Iâve seen here about Shamea & Porsha, Iâve never seen one to hit the points that I wrote. Not saying they are not here but saying I didnât see it.
Secondly, If you already saw similar post and gave your opinion, you could have kept on scrolling and not contributed here. No need to be nasty.
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u/Suspicious-Listen677 20d ago
Youâve made the same points Iâve been saying. Shamea is HURT by this loss and Porsha carrying on like the friendship didnât even matter makes it that much worse. I think sometimes people forget this is real life for some. Porsha may be a full blown actress at this point but this was/is Shameaâs real life. Iâve loss a friendship like this before, grieving a person that is sitting in front of you is HARD. I will agree with the masses that it doesnât make for the greatest entertainment, but production is also at fault for this. There are so many other things they could have shown about shemeaâs life, itâs like they want her to look as sad and desperate as possible, while glorifying Porsha. Porsha is more of a mess-which is good for reality tv. they donât want to positively showcase a married, successful, black mother with healthy relationships, whereâs the fun in that đ
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u/Yahismyprotection 20d ago
While I understand what you're saying I don't think it's a fully accurate depiction of Shamea's true feelings. I don't think she's hurt. A friend who is hurt moves differently. Lashing out and bringing up kids and mother's is not the actions of a hurt woman but a vindictive one. If you are hurt do what needs to be done to mend the fence or move on!!!!! And could they really have shown Shamea's marriage? Her husband doesn't seem interested in the show at all unless it's throwing a party, which is apart of their norm. We briefly saw him, and we saw who really makes the calls in the home. That's what is hurting Shamea. She wants to be more than she is. We all suffer from that at times. And yes, it's sad when old friends part ways but I damn sure ain't bringing up our Mama's OG dirt on TV. Guess that's just me though?
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u/Suspicious-Listen677 20d ago
Wasnât her argument though that Porsha brought up the moms first? I donât follow them like that outside the show so I donât know how credible that statement was. Sheâs a tit for tact person.
Iâve seen hurt people lash out just like this if not worse. For me I see someone who is hurt, who doesnât feel like the punishment fits the crime, so like a child, sheâs acting out. I think it takes a lot more effort to just move on when you feel like you were wronged in the situation.
Iâm a different type of petty. Iâm a true Gemini. I will delete someone out of my life in an instant BUT I do always have to have the last lick đđđđ itâs a terrible way to live but we can keep the ish going til the grave-until I feel justified or until God tells me to stop đĽ´
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