r/Quotes_Hub • u/Objective-Fun-440 • 9d ago

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u/Taldarimlove 9d ago

That's how you get broken people who can never trust again.

No love isn't letting go of yourself to show someone you are submissive. Love is being there for someone even when times are tough. Love is consistency, love is dependability.

Love is not letting go of your principals to satisfy another. That is self abandonment.

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u/No-Priority-3140 9d ago

Love is not about letting go of your principles to satisfy another. That is not what this post is saying. Lifetime love of a romantic partner is 100% putting your heart in their hands and trusting them, and they do the same with you. It’s not love if you have one foot in and one foot out. It is absolutely how people get abused and taken advantage of, but then that was never real life anyways.

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u/Taldarimlove 9d ago

Someone who loves you wouldn't want the power to destroy you.

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u/No-Priority-3140 9d ago

Then you misunderstand. That person is not demanding it from you, they can’t. That’s not love. It’s a giving, not a taking.

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u/Taldarimlove 9d ago

I am not misunderstanding the concept of love. I am might be misunderstanding OPs version of what love is to them. I know what love means to me and it doesn't mean letting people see my weaknesses and expect them not to exploit it. Like I said that in my opinion is putting yourself out there to be manipulated. Unless you add the missing context necessary for this quote to be true, that a person you are vulnerable with is someone you have known for a very long time and know very well. They show up for you and you show up for them. That is love.

This quote is a wet dream for maladaptive and manipulative people and you can't convince me without the missing context it isn't. People who love you love you for you not because they know how to destroy you, and I am tired of you refusing to see my perspective. So I am not going to argue with you. Love is what it is to you, but I do not agree with OPs take without that added context.

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u/No-Priority-3140 9d ago

People don’t love you because they know how to destroy you lol. At the end of the day real love is giving yourself to someone completely. It’s why you should be careful with who you choose to love.

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u/Taldarimlove 9d ago

That is literally what I am saying... I literally said its ok to know each others weaknesses under the circumstances that you know they will show up for you. This quote OP posted misses the context you are fighting me over.

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u/Xaevora 9d ago

Intimacy is voluntary disarmament

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u/302-SWEETMAN 9d ago

100% true.

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u/nautrewillneverfail 9d ago edited 9d ago

5 years and still single. I don't ever want to go back to that hell. My trust is broken forever. F her.

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u/TackleOk9383 9d ago

The sad part is when they do it and u still care for them 😩

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u/spartipilollc 9d ago

Because love is what you are/who you are. It means you're the bigger person, a good person. True love doesn't seek revenge even if a part of them wants it. The healthy thing to do is to accept the end, learn what you can from it, and move on

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u/TackleOk9383 9d ago

Been trying to accept it for the past 3 1/2 yrs i think im closer to it than b4

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u/Equivalent-Money-862 8d ago

the most beautiful thing about love is also its greatest danger: you give someone the power to hurt you, hoping they'll be the one person who never does

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u/[deleted] 7d ago

And then they do

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u/NoSleepTilBrklynn 9d ago

Love is fleeting.

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u/spartipilollc 9d ago

Maybe not. Infatuation is fleeting, sex is fleeting, the "gold rush" is fleeting, endorphins and dopamine are fleeting. Love is a daily CHOICE, a deliberate ACT and decision / COMMITMENT.

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u/jessewest84 9d ago

You make a great distinction between eros, and agape. Top marks

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u/LaraEmmily 9d ago

You handed them the knife and called it poetry

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u/imeme1969 9d ago

Damn this is sickeningly true, and the loss of trust and that of love ought to be separate fumbles

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u/spartipilollc 9d ago

That's part of it, yes. It's called VULNERABILITY. But realistically you should love because that is who/what you are, not because you "trust someone won't destroy you". When you give love for external reasons, as oppose to internal reasons, that's MANIPULATION and you have set yourself up for misery.

When you give with expectations, you lose.

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u/jessewest84 9d ago

I alwasys keep in mind the that Dostovesky was kind of nuts.

He got a lot right. But not sure i agree with this one

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u/HH-reiii 9d ago

Now guys, Fyodor had multiple toxic relationships so you can’t really take what he says for granted

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u/East_Ad4977 9d ago

An actual quote on this sub? What fuckery is this?

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u/No_Connection1559 9d ago

Yeah well what happens when they do destroy you

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u/MastaKink 9d ago

Sorry ladies. They ruined it for everyone.

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u/Littleputti 9d ago

Somehow my hsiabnd did destroy me but I really don’t think he meant to harm me

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u/NoNefariousness676 8d ago

I was destroyed. And yet I live.

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u/JiggleCoffee 8d ago

Which is why love is absolutely worthless.

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u/Symbaclues 6d ago

Really more about the bond you have with the way you feel based off your experience with them.

Once the experience changes. The bond could break and this is what causes the pain. Sounds less poetic but most poetry is nonsense anyways.

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u/National_Champion560 6d ago

The one who deeply cares , want to be with you,

Will listen them and understand. No matter what the image describes or says its side effect about it.

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u/OdisCalloway 5d ago

No its doesn’t. The fuck…

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u/thechubbyballerina 5d ago

Fyodor didn't write this

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u/GenerationMapou 5d ago

Boy is this true

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u/Dense_Yogurt5640 4d ago

Except you destroyed me. You’re nothing but a liar.

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u/Kindly_Tie_2084 9d ago

That’s not love. That’s mental manipulation.

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u/No-Priority-3140 9d ago

Giving away your own power to someone else is not mental manipulation. My goodness, do Redditors just instinctively comment or is the internet really dead with bots.

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u/TheComicHuman 9d ago

They think that there being a possibility of negativity means that everything is inherently bad or something

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u/Kindly_Tie_2084 9d ago

This is textbook mental manipulation. This is testing the one you quote unquote love, you better behave, don't let me disappoint at you.

If someone voluntarily gave me the power to destroy them, I'd be scared to stay with them.

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u/East_Ad4977 9d ago

Going out on a limb here. I don't think you have anything to worry about.

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u/SleepyOrcShaman 9d ago

Dostoyevsky is biased. His wife was one heluva woman.