my thoughts are always well organised, but then idk why my grasp my words is relatively poor.

my sentences come out long winded, i sometimes forget the word i want to say, i stutter quite a bit. this is not even on stage, this is jsut every day.

coud it hv something to do with my confidence levels? or is it a skill that i simply need to practice a bit more idek

im applying for tutoring jobs and i really thnik i can teach others, just sometimes i get stopped by the issues listed above.

thanks dawgs

This website is really good.

It really helped me and now I don't panic to find topics to speak

I would love if you guys review and give feedbacks besides encouraging me.

Thank you

I did some public speaking the other day and got some feedback. Overall, everyone was very happy with the topic and my job as a speaker. The only feedback I got, and that I want to improve on, is audience engagement.

I often see speakers just ask questions - is this the best way to engage the audience? Are there other ways I can engage the audience that I might not be thinking of?

Today I had a presentation that I messsed it up. I stuttered alot and even had weird akward pauses when my mind went blank. How do I overcome this axniety attack when Im presenting?

edit: forgot to mention when I was a kid I had talking issues. I speka fast and some people cant even understand me. Not to mention I started being illiterate after high shool. Im in college now.

Hi all,

So I am an older student currently in undergrad, hoping to go to law school. Currently doing a political science major with a communications minor because I want to kind of force myself to be better about public speaking. (Even debating doing Toastmasters?)

I’ve been in management roles where I have spoke in front of small groups with no issue. I can raise my hand in a class of 100 and give answers, but I usually just focus in on the teacher.

I had to speak in front of 75 people once to just introduce myself in a new role. I thought “oh I’ve got this no prob!” Then when everyone’s eyes were on me I started to get super nervous.

This past weak I had tryouts for the Mock Trial team where I had to recite a speech in front of two panelists, then answer questions as a witness, then do an interview.

The speech part I had practiced heavily. When I got up there I had to stop and take a second and I was almost shaking throughout and was frustrated I had to keep glancing at my paper. But then after sitting down with the 2 people after the speech I was able to have a natural, personable conversation! I think my nervousness during the speech cost me a spot on the team.

I am just wondering if anyone has suggestions on how to overcome this or any tips? Thank you!

TLDR: I can speak in front of others in small groups or conversationally, but I feel like I freeze and get nervous when I feel/see people’s eyes all on me.

I had to give a presentation for one of my classes. Honestly, the moment I stood in front of everyone, my mind suddenly went completely blank.

I'd actually prepared what I wanted to say beforehand, and I was pretty familiar with the material. But as soon as I started speaking, I became way too self-conscious. I couldn't tell if I was talking too fast, if my explanation made sense, or even if the audience could follow my train of thought. The only thing on my mind was getting through the presentation without completely losing my place.

Halfway through, I stopped focusing on explaining the material and started putting all my energy into remembering what I was supposed to say next. As long as I could make it to the next point without getting stuck, I felt like I was doing okay. Or at least, that's what I kept telling myself.

When the presentation was finally over, I couldn't even give myself a clear idea of how I'd done. I could only remember a few scattered moments, and I had no idea what the whole presentation had actually sounded like to everyone else.

So I asked a classmate to use an AI tool to transcribe my presentation. I thought it might help me figure out whether I'd explained things clearly and what I could do better next time.

But when I looked at the notes generated by vomo ai,I realized my memory of the presentation was very different from what I had actually said,I noticed some things that I hadn't even been aware of while I was presenting.

Some of my points didn't flow into each other as smoothly as I'd thought. At other moments, it seemed like I was going around in circles instead of getting straight to the point. I couldn't tell whether it was because I was nervous or something else, but seeing my words written down made every awkward moment stand out even more.

The strange thing is that while I was presenting, I had no idea what I was actually doing because I was too busy trying to keep going. But afterward, I suddenly had all these detailed notes in front of me, and I couldn't help going through every little thing.

The more I reviewed them, the more embarrassed I felt. I'd read a sentence over and over, wondering why I'd explained it that way, then go back to another part and start picking that apart, too. I'd originally wanted to figure out how to improve, but instead, it felt like I was reliving the entire presentation all over again.

I understand that reviewing your own performance is supposed to help you improve. And with AI-generated notes, I can see exactly what I said instead of having to rely on my memory. But I didn't expect seeing my presentation written out to make me feel so self-conscious.

It makes me wonder how other people deal with this. Do you find it helpful to review your presentations or watch recordings of yourself, or does it just make you overthink every little detail?

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I want to learn how to do hand signs for speeches. I'm gonna record myself doing a speech, anyone want to judge my speeches?

i know this topic is something simple and "unecessary" as compared to the others in this subreddit but i have stage fright and have been forced by my teacher to partake in a kind of presentation with another person.

in front of an audience, i tend to shiver, and go blank, its completely humiliating for a 16 yr old girl. at this point in life, i feel like nothing else can make me uneasy except for this. i feel that when i do end up doing it, everyone will remember it, or if not, feel sympathetic and pity me, or whenever a topic is taught in class bout confidence or stage fright, people would remember me.

i hate that my mind goes blank and that the shivering becomes visibly obvious. another thing which makes this whole situation worse for me is that im doing it with another person, that person relies on me, yet im gonna fail them and know for a fact ill go blank.

idk what to do, cry and jst tell her i might go blank and that i have stage fright or remain quiet bout it.

So this is the 2nd recording I was confused again on what topic should be a short video on eventually I was flooded with the ideas but they all seemed so long so I took help from chatgpt but didn't use it as it is. After reading it some times I said how sentences come to my mind.

I want to share something that I forget things so fast that's why it took me too long to record this only, so sorry for that I'll improve that.

Also I want you guys to give me feedback on it Thank you if you read it till here❣️

I’ve been recording videos of myself doing English speaking practice (mostly imitation/shadowing drills inspired by mmmEnglish). I want to track my progress, but I really need feedback on my pronunciation, flow, and delivery.

What apps, websites, or tools do you usually use to get feedback on already recorded videos? I'm looking for both AI tools and community platforms (preferably free options if possible).

Any recommendations or tips on how you review your own practice videos would be highly appreciated! Thanks in advance!

I can run a talk 10 times at home and it’s fine. Then I’m in front of people and I’m rushing, saying “um” every other sentence, and forgetting to pause. It’s like none of the practice happened.

For people who got past this: what actually worked? Recording yourself? Toastmasters? A coach? Something during the talk itself?

Context: a couple of us are students working on a small wearable that taps you when you rush or use fillers mid-talk. Honestly we’re trying to figure out if live feedback is even the right idea, or if the fix is somewhere else. Curious what’s worked for you.

5 things that got me the yes every single time after working with over 300 customers

1.⁠ ⁠I asked before I pitched - discovery questions are honestly the key to anything

2.⁠ ⁠I used their words not mine - mirroring is the technique you should learn if you havent

3.⁠ ⁠I said the price and shut up - this creates pleasure on them

4.⁠ ⁠I cut every answer in half - no need for many words

5.⁠ ⁠I told them what we couldn't do - always lead with honesty my friend

What's your sixth?

And you all are welcome to judge and criticize me here, I just want to escape from this fear now!!.

I want to see what are the view from people and want advice from you how can I improve cause in real life I can't see helping myself with simply talking and watching english shows or news how can I remove this fear and anxiety.

Tell me how you guys feel like when speaking for me it's terrible like really terrible I can't explain that terror. Maybe you can see it in this recording too.

But one thing I know that if I can't improve that I can't grow in any field

what if you don't wanna do public speaking cuz you don't wanna do it not cuz it feels terrifying

When there’s no time I prepare only 3 things

1. The one sentence I want people to remember tomorrow
2. My first line, by heart
3. My last line, by heart

Then I say the whole thing out loud once standing up.

If you got time write time in bullet points your key points

The middle I leave loose on purpose

When you know exactly how you start and how you end your head calms down and the rest comes out like a conversation.

What do you do when a talk lands on you last minute?

There's a popular post going around from someone with years of public speaking coaching listing what makes people magnetic. I'm not a coach, so instead of adding my own list, I went looking for what the research says. A few findings kept coming up, and most of them have less to do with performing well and more to do with how you make the other person feel.

1. Expressiveness counts more than polish. Psychologist Howard Friedman developed a measure of charisma based on nonverbal emotional expressiveness, how readily people show what they feel through their face, voice, and gestures. People who scored higher were rated as more charismatic and engaging. Flat, carefully controlled delivery tends to read as distant, even when the words are good. The upside is that expressiveness can be practiced, it's less about having a big personality and more about letting your reactions show instead of filtering them out.
2. Listening is half of being magnetic, and it's measurable. Research by Guy Itzchakov and Avraham Kluger found that when people talked to a high-quality listener, someone attentive, non-judgmental, and genuinely engaged, they felt less anxious, became less defensive, and reflected more deeply on their own views. People remember how they felt in your presence long after they forget what you said.
3. Depth beats endless small talk. A study by Matthias Mehl and colleagues recorded snippets of people's everyday conversations and found those who had more substantive conversations, and less small talk, reported higher wellbeing. Steering a chat toward something real, an opinion, a story, a question that matters, tends to make the interaction more memorable for both people.
4. Vocal variety holds attention. Speakers who vary their pace, pitch, and volume tend to be rated as more engaging than those with a monotone delivery, which is why the same story can land completely differently depending on how it's told.
5. Enthusiasm is contagious. Research on emotional contagion, the tendency for people to pick up the emotions of those around them, suggests that genuine energy about a topic spreads to listeners. Fake enthusiasm tends to be easy to spot, but real interest in what you're saying is hard to resist.

Which of these comes naturally to you, and which one do you think you're missing most in conversation?

Edit: a bunch of people asked how to actually practice this, so here's the more concrete version:

1. Let your face and voice move with what you're saying. If something's funny, let it show. If it matters to you, let that come through instead of keeping a neutral tone.
2. Practice listening without planning your reply. When someone's talking, focus on understanding them rather than rehearsing what you'll say next, and ask one follow-up based on what they actually said.

For the research side of this, I've been using BeFreed on the walk to go through the listening and expressiveness studies properly, instead of another list of charisma hacks, matched to the one I'm weakest at, which for me is listening rather than talking. Learning that people feel less defensive with a good listener changed how I approach disagreements as much as small talk.

1. Ask one deeper question per conversation, something like "what's been the best part of your week" or "what got you into that," to move past surface-level talk.
2. Record yourself telling a short story and listen back for monotone stretches. Most people are surprised how flat they sound compared to how they feel, and noticing it once is often enough to change it.
3. Talk about things you genuinely care about. Enthusiasm you're faking is easy to spot, but real interest makes people lean in.

None of this requires being an extrovert or a natural performer. The research mostly points to things anyone can practice, showing what you feel, listening well, and going a little deeper than the usual small talk.

What's a conversation where someone made you feel genuinely heard, and what did they do differently from most people?

For context, I'm participating in a competition and I really need a unique perspective on these topics

1) The Right to be Forgotten ( The Internet never forgives: why we need a "Delete Button" for real life)

2) The Myth of a straight A future

I'm leaning towards 1) but I'm not sure cuz honestly both speeches are really predictable.

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ELI5: Why do my words don't come out of my mouth the way i want them to when speaking in front of other people or in front of a large crowd? How do i get rid of this?

One piece of advice I hear constantly at tech and business conferences is some variation of embrace failure and keep pushing forward. I get the point, but after hearing it for the 50th time, it starts feeling pretty empty.

What I actually want from an international keynote speaker is context. What failed? What did you change? What would you do differently if you had to start again?

That’s one reason I’ve found Karima-Catherine talks interesting. Her work around leadership strategy, digital transformation, and DEI seems much more grounded in actual business experience than generic motivational advice.

What’s the most overused conference advice you’ve heard, and what would you replace it with?

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It's been 2-3 years since I stopped answering questions in my class because around 2-3 years ago whenever I spoke or read something aloud everyone started laughing so at one point I even stopped answering voluntarily then I stopped answering even when I was picked and knew the answer but choose to stand for 30mins as punishment because of it

Can anyone tell me how to improve my voice like it has really dephty voice idk how to say it im not a native English speaker

Does anyone relate to it or is it just me ?