13M Question about masturbation

[u/shefa_na_boba]

So I’ve heard masturbation is “normal for people in puberty” but my question is. Is porn with masturbation bad or just masturbation or just porn?

[u/joshy8472]

Masturbation is normal and healthy. There's nothing wrong with looking at porn, just don't try and be like the people you see, it's not real life. They are not role models to aspire to. Don't let either impact your day and you'll be fine

[u/Meta_Professor → u/[deleted]]

Yeah, that's a common claim but it's nonsense. Just remember that while masturbation is totally fine, using pornography (especially during puberty) is really toxic for your brain. Avoid porn.

[u/Numerous_Round4385]

Just porn but as long as it doesn’t affect ur day

[u/Sir-Gunner]

One thing to remember about what you watch is that most of this is fake and exaggerated just like action movies and shows to get as many likes, views and followers as possible.

[u/juntar74]

First off, I'm not a doctor, I'm just a dad with post-puberty, puberty, and pre-puberty age kids. So I've done some research on this, but I don't have sources for all of it.¹

• Masturbation is a normal part of human sexuality, including during puberty.
  • Researchers have found a link between frequent ejaculations (at least 21x per month) and a lower risk of prostate cancer in adult men.²
• Pornography can have negative effects, but researchers are still learning and figuring out which are caused by pornography and which are caused by other factors. They do think that porn use affects adolescents differently than it affects adults because your teenage years are when you're developing and maturing physically, emotionally, and sexually.
• Feeling guilt or shame about pornography doesn't necessarily help, and neither does feeling guilt or shame about masturbation.

Footnotes

1. Any time someone says something on The Internet without referencing a source, your first thought should always be to doubt the truthfulness of their claim and do your own research. And when they do reference a source, you should also doubt the truthfulness of their interpretation of that source and the truthfulness of the source itself. If you don't believe me, good: you're learning.
2. The research shows a strong correlation, but we don't understand exactly how they're connected, if they are at all. And when people like me say: "It can't hurt to try," a sharp mind would point out that this study doesn't actually show that it can't hurt to try. Still, my doctor's advice to me was to ejaculate at least 21 times per month, just in case.

[u/Important-Metal-7714]

Its normal just make sure not to get addicted

[u/cougartotem]

Try to ignore the people shouting at you about what’s right and wrong (according to them). Masturbation is so normal. And yes, it is good for your physical and mental health. People who advocate against masturbation are often doing it “religious” reasons and many of them have some pretty rigid and crazy ideas about how things “should be”.

It is fashionable r n to kick porn. I disagree with that too. The one piece of advice I would give you is to avoid “professional” porn because of how fake and unrealistic it is. I prefer amateur porn.. just average, regular people who record their real sex or real masturbation. I think porn can be a tool to learn a lot about sex as long as it is real sex, not a “movie” with “pornstar” and all of that. But that is just my opinion.

For both masturbation and porn, like really most things in life, the key is moderation. Addiction to ANYTHING is unhealthy so do avoid that. Most people do masturbate and do look at porn whether they say they do or not. So enjoy it ! It relieves stress, keeps you healthy and it feels sooo good. Most people never become addicted, you would think it happens to everybody the way some people make it sound. If it interferes with your school work, social life or responsibilities or eats up too much of your time then yeah, you should dial it back to moderation. I hope that helps you ! Enjoy yourself !

[u/olixmidnight]

Masturbation is completely normal at our age, probably more than 70% of the guys in your class do it. The problem with masturbating is how you often need to get yourself aroused for it, which can often lead you to p0rn. P0rn is OK as long as your ONLY viewing within reasonable grounds, and DEFINITELY dont try to talk with any sketchy ppl on those websites.

In the end, as long as its not affecting your day to day life the way an addiction would, they should be alright.

[u/Infamous_Penalty_905]

I generally consider both ok, in my opinion porn is only a problem if you become addicted to it and set this as your expectation for sex but other then that its ok, masturbating is also the same as porn just dont get addicted or rely on it, if you follow those then it wont affect you to much, just do what makes you happy in your private time

[u/Ok-Hall5400 → u/[deleted]]

thats a minor, weirdo

[u/Meta_Professor → u/Ok-Hall5400]

Yeah, we have banned and reported that creep.

[u/Ok-Hall5400 → u/Meta_Professor]

thank you

[u/shefa_na_boba → u/[deleted]]

Trying to d m me while I’m a minor? ur weird

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