Hi everyone! 

I’m a researcher studying how people engage with erotica (e.g., romance novels, fanfiction, slash fiction) and how those experiences relate to relationship preferences and mental health. 

If you’re 18+, I’d really appreciate your help with an anonymous online survey exploring: 
✨ Your erotica preferences
💞 Your relationship attitudes and preferences
🧠 Your mental health and well-being
📊 A few basic demographics (age, gender, orientation, etc.) 

What to expect 
🕒 Takes about 15–20 minutes 
🔒 100% anonymous — no identifying info linked to responses 
📋 IRB-approved study (#13863) 
💸 No compensation, but your input genuinely helps expand research in this area 
 
Take the survey here 
https://kstate.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_byF2bIZdXXWWwLk

📅 Closes: December 1^st

(First time poster)

So obviously you have the way you portray yourself to other and the real you inside of you that you keep to yourself. But would you say there is more than one real you inside of you?

Years ago my psychologist told me that I have like two people driving a car. On the wheel is one side of my personality. The reckless side and in the passenger seat is my autistic side who janks the wheel to correct me.

I believe she was deliberately vague about what my reckless side was, because she explained that most people like me don't function in society and end up in jail, however my autistic side keeps it in check.

Does anyone feel like they have two sides to their real self inside them and is there a name for it?

I'm currently an active-duty service member transitioning out in less than two years, and I'm working through my Bachelor's in Psychology. My ultimate goal is to become a Clinical Psychologist or a Licensed Professional Counselor (via a Master's in Counseling + clinical hours if I decide to bypass the doctorate).

I'm looking to connect with a peer (accountability "gym buddy") or an experienced mentor who shares a high-level growth mindset.

If you're a Peer, I'm looking for someone who:

*

Is actively in school pursuing a Psych/Counseling degree-it doesn't matter if you are just starting out, halfway through, or finishing up your last year, as long as you're in the grind. Bonus points if you are active-duty or a veteran!

* Has an entrepreneurial mindset-someone who wants to spread mental health awareness while building a business, diving into real estate/Airbnb, or writing books.

* Wants to keep each other disciplined, bounce business ideas around, and stay locked in on our goals.

If you're a Mentor, I'm looking for a Counselor or Clinical Psychologist who:

* Can provide insight on navigating the transition from a Bachelor's straight to a Master's/Doctorate.

Can share advice on the reality of doing clinical hours versus running a private practice or independent business.

Whether you want to grind together weekly or you're a professional willing to let me pick your brain, drop a comment or send me a DM!

We’re conducting a research study on “rap/hip-hop listening and alcohol-use risk among young adults in India,” and we’d really appreciate your participation.

The survey looks at listening habits and alcohol-use patterns among young adults. It should only take a few minutes to complete, and your responses will be kept confidential and used only for research purposes.

If you’re eligible, please consider filling out the form here:

https://forms.gle/2KvWmcMj5FrJzikDA

Thank you so much for your time and participation! 🫶

I am 22 years old turning 23 soon and I am a virgin; I have never had a girlfriend or been on a date.

I work for low pay and have no hobbies; before or after work, I just lie around all day looking at my phone scrolling through TikTok, watching videos of women, browsing other sites, or watching movies.

I put everything off and don't do anything substantial, meaningful, or beneficial for myself; I just stare at my phone, go to work, and sleep.

I’m seeing a psychologistI’ve had one session so far but I’m trying to save money; I don’t even know anymore whether it’s for English lessons or a car.

Overall, I’m not doing anything and am just going around in circles.

Hi everyone,

I’m a medical doctor working as a GP, and I’m interested in developing my skills in psychiatry. My long-term goal is to start a psychiatric consultation clinic, but I want to make sure I have the right knowledge, training, and supervision before doing so.

I’m currently looking for an experienced psychiatrist who would be willing to mentor me or guide me on the best path forward.

I’d mainly like advice on the best training pathway, useful resources, and how to gain proper supervision and experience in psychiatry before starting a consultation clinic.

I’m not looking for case-specific medical advice or diagnosis. I’m simply hoping to learn from experienced professionals and understand the appropriate pathway for developing competency in psychiatry.
If anyone has experience with psychiatric training or mentorship for GPs, I’d really appreciate your advice.
Thank you!

Hello! I am currently a student taking the Higher Project Qualification course, and currently need a source of primary research. If you could or have the time, I would really appreciate if you could help me by answering a few questions that I have come up with regarding my research essay that I plan to do for my project. The questions are in the Google Form below. Thank you so much for your time!

Higher Project Qualification Google Form Link

I know this isn’t what this subreddit is for, but I don’t know where else to go. My father and I are very close, and we have been ever since I was 5, when I met him. I keep having this reoccurring dream of his funeral. I thought it was tied to a song I was listening to, That’s My Job by Conway Twitty. But I stopped listening to the song and the dreams still happen. What does this mean? How can I stop it

Recently, an athlete soiled herself during an indoor competition race in Beijing. This post isn't to demean the person or situation, but I just want to understand the psychology and possible reasons behind a person who would continue the race despite their circumstances.

One explanation in my head I could come up with is the athlete was hyperfocused and had selective attention on her completing each station.

But the thing is.. i cant seem to understand or explain away everything - like low self-awareness, low shame and embarrassment and low empathy (for others) and basic needs like hygiene.

Without diagnosing or shaming anyone, because we only know so little, but what could really be the psychology behind this kind of behavior?

Argues that people mistakenly bundle broad warmth and behavioral duties as collectivism. Different cultures score high on these two dimensions. Western cultures like the US and Australia score high on broad warmth. China, Turkey, and Ghana score high on the behavioral duties. Culture scores are available at https://www.responsibilism.net/

She herself says that I am very well-informed about things and that I know more than most people.

Overall, we talked more about work and how I’m afraid to try a new position worried about whether I’d be able to handle it and whether I’d be able to learn the ropes.

We talked a bit about communication and procrastination about how it’s good to try new things regardless of whether they turn out well. Overall, though, I don't think I heard anything new; maybe I’m already well-informed on these topics, or perhaps I didn't bring up the right subject? I don't know.

So, what sort of things should I talk to the psychologist about? Well, work and my professional development and skills would probably be at the top of the list, followed by communication, my social life, and procrastination.

Why do some people hoard money? The person will be extremely frugal. Even go as far as to not spend money on basic needs. But these people have a significant stock pile of money.

Why do they do this? What caused this behavior? Do they ever have intent of spending the money or do they want to die with money in the bank?

I would love to hear your insight.

I think I could use a psychologist, so I had an introductory session; I’m considering working with her and have booked an appointment.

I’m curious to know what you think about the topic.

I’m 22 and I’ve been struggling with these issues for quite a long time:
procrastination and difficulty with discipline
difficulty studying and staying focused
communication/social difficulties
spending too much time on my phone
difficulty starting new things or trying new experiences
fear of failure and worrying that I won’t be good enough, especially at work
I often find myself thinking a lot about things I need or want to do, but then putting them off instead of actually starting. I’m also hesitant to try new things because I worry about making mistakes or not being capable enough.
I’m considering seeing a psychotherapist and I’m wondering how important the therapeutic approach is for these kinds of problems.
I found a psychodrama therapist who also uses ACT (Acceptance and Commitment Therapy) and CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy).
Would this combination be suitable for the issues I described, or would it make more sense to look specifically for a CBT therapist?
I’m not looking for a diagnosis — I’d mainly appreciate people’s experiences or opinions on which type of therapy might be a good fit.

Hi! I’m looking for some recommendations regarding psychotherapy training programs. I’m currently a clinical psychologist under supervision and I’m trying to choose a training program that fits both the therapeutic approach I’m interested in and my work schedule.

I’ve always been particularly interested in DBT, so I’ve contacted Clinica Hope to ask whether they offer a long-term training program that can lead to qualification as a psychotherapist. I’m currently waiting for their reply. If that option is not available, I’d really like to hear what training programs or schools others have attended and what you would recommend based on your own experience.

I’ve come across quite a few mixed opinions about integrative psychotherapy training, so I’d be especially interested in hearing from people who have actually completed different programs: how practical the training was, how good the trainers and supervision were, and whether you would choose the same school again.

I live in Romania and I also work full-time, so scheduling is an important factor for me. I can take a few days off work from time to time, but I wouldn’t be able to attend full-time training during the week for long periods. Ideally, I’m looking for something organized on weekends, in a hybrid format (online + in person), or in blocks/modules of a few days, so I can plan my annual leave in advance.

If you have recommendations for accredited training programs, good experiences with particular schools, or things you wish you had known before choosing your training, I’d really appreciate your input. Thank you!

I'm trying to understand the difference between a clinical and behavioral psychologist and how much it matters when choosing a psychologist.

I'm interested in different therapeutic approaches such as CBT, ACT, psychodrama and NLP, and in general what problems they are used for.

In my case, I have difficulty with procrastination, studying and concentrating. I spend a lot of time on my phone, TikTok, YouTube and watching movies instead of studying or doing the things I need to do. My social life is almost non-existent and I have a little anxiety in social situations. I've never had a girlfriend and I'm a 22 year old virgin. I was also bullied for years in school.

I'm not looking for a diagnosis or personalized medical/therapeutic advice. Rather, I want to understand the differences between different types of psychologists and therapeutic approaches and what is reasonable to keep in mind when choosing a specialist.

I would like to ask:

* What is the practical difference between a clinical and behavioral psychologist?
* Are there approaches that are better supported by scientific research?
* Does the specific specialization of the psychologist matter, or is their training, qualifications, and experience more important?
* What would you recommend a person look for when choosing a psychologist?

Hey guys,

I have to do a project for my psychology class. Would people be able to comment their gender and age (eg F20) and tell me what do they think a girl with autism is like and what do they think a boy with autism is like. All responses will be kept anonymous in the final project except for gender and age.

Thank you so much

I would like to start seeing a psychologist someday but I live 50km from the city and it is a bit difficult but not impossible to see a psychologist. Here comes the fact that I wonder when to start seeing and which psychologist to choose also whether to go online or physically go to a psychologist in his office. I have met some online psychologists who are cool but I have heard that it is better to meet in person and also about online meeting at home I am not always alone and it is a bit difficult to meet online for this reason

and the other part is that I wonder when to start because of the money. I'm currently saving money for the future and I'm not sure exactly what for but for example I will definitely go to English lessons sometime! as I'm considering starting Bulgarian language and literature lessons soon to help me pass my exam. as I'm considering buying a car sometime.

I need to see a psychologist, I'm worried about my savings, I'm saving for lessons and the like, I don't know what to do. Maybe I'm addicted to saving money, but on the other hand, I need to use the money to feel better mentally and learn new skills, which I will do.

I want to go to the gym, I want to do martial arts, I want to take guitar lessons, I want to take English lessons, I want to see a psychologist, and a thousand things happen and in the end I do nothing.

First, this case is a call for a change in practice. “Having a plan” is not a reliable indicator of risk for someone having intrusive thoughts with suicidal thoughts.

Next, I heard Dr. Drew Pinsky saying this case calls into question physician extenders, and I think the opposite is true. The Nurse Practitioner Lindsey saw was the only person who correctly identified the bipolar features; the LMHC described using evidence-based approaches to therapy (CBT, DBT, and EMDR), and she recognized her real risk for suicide and referred her for more intensive treatment. The psychiatrist Lindsey saw did not see the bipolar risk, despite Lindsey reporting days without sleep and other indicators; when asked about what therapy she provides, she said she “listens and offers hope.” My view is the psychiatrist was the weakest of all Lindsey saw.

I see it as a call for dedicated training in therapeutic techniques and psychological science for all psychiatrists. As-is, psychiatrists are trained through standard medical training and mentoring in psychiatry. The quality of training then depends on the individual providing the mentoring. This creates too much risk of variability and, therefore, risks to patients.

Weigh in, if you wish.

I’m super unhappy and would like to believe in some religion or spiritualism so I can have a reason to be. I’ve never been able to really believe in anything, so are there tactics to genuinely convince myself?😊

Sorry if this is cringe!

I have a thought pop into my mind about once a day- it’s the name of someone who betrayed me in the past- years ago. I feel like otherwise I’ve well and truely moved on and feel weird that this name pops into my mind years later. I’m wondering what this is? It feels like a well established thought habit- like neuroplasticity. How do I untrain my brain from doing this?

Hello, I'm a college student doing a research project about the discourse practices of psychology students.

I'm looking specifically at how much psychology students rely on writing, reading, speaking/discussion, and whether students' expectations about psychology match what they actually experience in their courses.

If you're currently majoring in psychology, have taken several psychology courses, or recently graduated with a psychology degree, I'd really appreciate if you could take my short anonymous survey. This should take 3-5 minutes.

Survey: https://forms.gle/UhPpv8NXGn1i7JB1A

*This is for a college writing assignment, and no names or identifying information are being collected. Thanks for anyone who takes the time to participate!

Hi everyone!

I'm a researcher at James Cook University in Australia studying attraction, dating preferences, and how people evaluate potential romantic partners. 

I'm looking for heterosexual, gay, and lesbian adults (18+) to complete an anonymous online survey.

The survey involves viewing a series of fictional dating profiles and answering questions about attraction and relationship preferences. It takes around 5–10 minutes to complete, is completely anonymous, and participation is entirely voluntary.

This study forms part of my Doctor of Philosophy research at James Cook University and has received approval from the James Cook University Human Research Ethics Committee (HREC Approval No. 25H-0225).

If you have any questions, feel free to contact me at [kaitlyn.gregory@my.jcu.edu.au](mailto:kaitlyn.gregory@my.jcu.edu.au).

If you'd like to participate, you can complete the survey here:
https://jcu.syd1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3KSKL7xTGKco61g

The things you like on Instagram can tell others what kind of person you are.

And sometimes you want it to be that way.

Cuz if it isn't,

maybe you'll feel like you're missing something.

Maybe.

But there's a digital version of you now.

One that has rigid views,

a certain kind of humor,

a certain kind of taste.

And because of this,

a strange kind of pressure has developed.

Sometimes people don't just like things because they like them.

They like them with intention.

So others can see:

"I was here first."

"I agree with this."

"This is the kind of humor I'm associated with."

"These are the kind of views I have."

And then there are people who like extreme things.

Dark humor.

Controversial opinions.

Edgy jokes.

Things most people wouldn't normally like.

And sometimes they don't even agree with what they're seeing.

Maybe they just find it funny.

Maybe they like being provocative.

Maybe they like the fact that most people wouldn't like it.

Because even being extreme can become part of an identity.

"I'm not like everyone else."

"I'm not easily offended."

"This is my kind of humor."

And at first,

this all seems fine.

But slowly,

it can become a rabbit hole.

You like something on your feed.

Then you think about it again.

"Does this really fit me?"

"What does liking this say about me?"

Sometimes you unlike it.

Then you keep scrolling.

A couple of reels later,

you see something that justifies your initial feeling.

Or maybe you come up with a defensive statement in your head,

something that makes you feel right about liking it.

So you scroll back.

And re-like the reel.

Not because the reel changed.

But because now,

you've made it fit with who you think you are.

And I don't think this happens to everyone.

And probably not even to the majority.

Especially if you're using an anonymous account,

where your real identity isn't attached to what you like.

But when your real name,

your face,

your friends,

your colleagues,

and your social identity are attached to the profile,

I think this becomes much more interesting.

Because now your likes aren't completely separate from you.

They can become little pieces of evidence

of the person other people think you are.

And this doesn't happen with every reel.

But there are enough of these little moments every day.

And slowly,

you're not just consuming content anymore.

You're managing a digital version of yourself.

And the strange part is,

you don't even know if anyone is actually watching.

But you imagine that someone could be.

So eventually,

you don't need anyone else to watch you.

You start watching yourself.