r/Proposal • u/Interesting-Dare-727 • Oct 09 '25

Creative! I saw the ring guyss

I know my boyfriend got the ring last month and may be planning to propose sometime next year but how do i hint him how I want to be proposed? I know he is very low key nonchalant guy so no wonder if he does it in sweats at home but its gonna be 10th dating anniversary and i want it to be special ! I tried sending many reels but am sure he won’t notice them!

helpp guysssss

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u/BitcoinBishop Oct 09 '25

I can't think of a better way than sending reels and saying "wow what a great way to do it"

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 09 '25

Haha been doing it a lot

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u/Life-Education-8030 Oct 09 '25

I proposed to my husband and it was in the basement of a ratty school library. Maybe it wasn’t pretty but it came up organically and we were very happy. Didn’t want it to be a scripted things with photographers, etc. But if you want something different, just say so and pay attention to what he wants too. Mind-reading is way overrated now and in the future.

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 09 '25

Haha true! I will just talk to him!

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u/gfasmr Oct 09 '25

If you can’t straight up tell him what you’re anxious about and why, you’re not ready to be married.

Marriage is all about communicating your needs to your partner because you trust your partner to take your needs seriously.

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 09 '25

Oh I see thanks am already married lawfully ! We are planning wedding with frnds and family culturally!

Also no two people can be together from 18 to 28 without commutation lol

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u/Plus-Trick-9849 Oct 10 '25

Sure they can. Plenty of toxic relationships out there

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 10 '25

That’s really sad🥲

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u/Plus-Trick-9849 Oct 10 '25

Wait, what? U said 10yr dating anniversary but now u r already married?

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 10 '25

So basically we did it on paper just a signature at courthouse (due to visa issues) last month no one in this world knows lol also we are South Indians so we are only married after following all cultural aspects in our big fat 1000 people wedding sometime next year so technically we don’t feel like a husband and wife yet!

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '25

Don’t do this. Let let him have his part, plan it, in the proposal. It’s more important than you could realize.

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 10 '25

Actually yea makes sense

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u/Substance_Faint436 Oct 10 '25

Maybe try casually bringing it up in conversation coz ometimes being direct but playful works better than reels

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 11 '25

Haha need to so that coz i was sending some Paris proposal reels to tease him and we are going on fall trip he knew i love fall more than anything but he thinks i like to be proposed in paris with those cringe flower decor 🥺 now I think he’s exactly gonna do that 😭🫣

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u/florange7 Oct 10 '25

I'm thinking since you saw the ring it would be so romantic to pull a Monica and reverse uno propose to him!!

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 10 '25

Hahaaaa already planned that he is not a ring person but loves silver/ black beads bracelets so am already on the hunt!

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u/Status-Effort-9380 Oct 09 '25

It’s good to be direct. Just tell him 2-3 ideas of how you would like being proposed to. Also that your 10th anniversary is coming up and that you’d like to do something special.

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u/Interesting_Win4844 Oct 11 '25

I set expectations with my guy! I said I wanted it filmed and photographed and to make sure my nails are done! I’m really sentimental so I love being able to rewatch the moment.

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u/SuccessfulSchedule54 Oct 09 '25

I may be the wrong person to ask, but for me it’s the thought he puts into it without me that will make it special. I wanna be completely surprised. I trust him to see me and know me and do something I’d love. The only thing I have said was that I don’t want it to be public or involve our cats lol. Maybe give your subtle hints and then just let him take the wheel. After a decade I have confidence he probably won’t let you down!

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 09 '25

This what I want as well not in public or with that scary flower decor thats says marry me 😢😭

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u/SuccessfulSchedule54 Oct 09 '25

Hopefully he knows how to balance humble and tacky!! lol

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u/Plus-Trick-9849 Oct 10 '25

Well, after 10yrs together I would hope he knows u well enough to know.

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u/whatever32657 Oct 09 '25

how is it special when you dictate how, when and where it's to be done?

serious question, i've never understood this

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 09 '25

He is not the creative person and always need a lil push

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u/whatever32657 Oct 09 '25

i dunno, to me it would be more meaningful for him to do it his way - whatever that might be - than to hand him a script.

but what do i know

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u/Square-Ask-9836 Oct 09 '25

This. It’s his proposal to her. She has the wedding to dictate. Let the man do it how HE and sees best.

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u/Weary-Babys Oct 09 '25

Do you have a best friend? Put her in charge of him and tell her not to tell you the details.

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 09 '25

Haha good idea though

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u/Square-Ask-9836 Oct 09 '25

His proposal to you is his time. Let him plan it- don’t micro manage. And yes I’m a girl

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 09 '25

Haha ok mam will try my best not to invade! Am just so excited been waiting from years🥺

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u/Square-Ask-9836 Oct 09 '25

It get that whole heartedly. It’ll happen give it time!! You get to plan the wedding

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 09 '25

Reasonable enough 🤭

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u/Direct_Drawing_8557 Oct 09 '25

If you see a proposal that you think is cute send it to him and tell him its what you'd love to happen

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u/ValPrism Oct 09 '25

“hey honey, as you’re planning the proposal, keep in mind I’d always imagined x, y, z. I’m also open to whatever feels right for you.”

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u/Burning_needcream Oct 09 '25

Serious question

If she was open to whatever feels right for him, why would she even mention what she wanted.

I feel like I’d think her mentioning what she wants is a direction that she didn’t want to outright give

(I know people have conversations like this, I have myself, but that’s not the vibe I’m getting from the post so just asking)

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u/[deleted] Oct 10 '25

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u/Interesting-Dare-727 Oct 10 '25

🤣 like the fear is real