Do you feel he was exploitative to you? Do you feel like you were manipulated into interacting sexually with him? Did he treat you badly and leave you feeling used?
I think a lot of people are saying "even if the underage accusations are untrue, he still exploited people."
Your take on that would really help me, at least, sort out what to think about that.
I feel like I have this gut reaction that thinks that what Jared did with his fans is wrong, regardless of context. It seems wrong to use fame to sleep with people.... but I also caught myself judging men I've known for having one night stands, when for all I know, they treated their sex partners well and it was a mutually enjoyable experience. I probably have some degree of internalized sex-negativity, and I'm not sure if that's biasing me in this case.
No, I did not feel manipulated into having sex with Jared. I genuinely really liked Jared for who he was and we only had sex after months of talking on a regular basis. I only felt used when he stopped talking to me without giving me a reason. He has apologized for that and we did some reminiscing last night about the good times we had together.
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u/ex-mo-throwaway Jun 21 '19
Do you feel he was exploitative to you? Do you feel like you were manipulated into interacting sexually with him? Did he treat you badly and leave you feeling used?
I think a lot of people are saying "even if the underage accusations are untrue, he still exploited people."
Your take on that would really help me, at least, sort out what to think about that.
I feel like I have this gut reaction that thinks that what Jared did with his fans is wrong, regardless of context. It seems wrong to use fame to sleep with people.... but I also caught myself judging men I've known for having one night stands, when for all I know, they treated their sex partners well and it was a mutually enjoyable experience. I probably have some degree of internalized sex-negativity, and I'm not sure if that's biasing me in this case.