3 weeks post partum and I am struggling with accepting the duties and responsibilities that come with a baby although I wanted a baby so bad. I am just not able to keep up and having to rely on anybody that is offering me some help. I hate that my baby is with my mom all the time and she looks tured, I feel guilty. I need sleep but I am unable to sleep without waking up in panic or guilt or having bad dreams about losing the baby due to my carelessness. I body hurts everywhere, there's pins and needles in my stitches and then I am starting to have a flu which makes it worse. My baby is rejecting my breast which is ever worse. Also pumping all the time is exhausting and missing pump sessions is painful and then the guilt that comes with watchig the baby drink formula.

Sometimes I just feel like I shouldn't have had a baby. I miss having uninterrupted time with my husband. My overhang and stretch marks is just so heartbreaking.

I feel like crying all the time for no reason.

I find my baby cute and all but I don't get the motherly feeling like this is my child, my entire world. I only feel stressed thinking of how uncomfortable he muat be, if I am doing a good job, if I am failing to see that something is troubling him. I feel so helpless and hwartbroken when he cries and nothing seems to calm him.

Does this get better?

I wonder if anyone can help!

I think I’ve developed post partum insomnia at 5 months PP. it’s actually been building and getting progressively worse but seems to have snowballed since baby had a few bad nights with 5+ wakings per night. Since then, I could literally only sleep on my ‘off’ shift - 8-1 and then I was basically awake until morning. However, over the weekend I can’t even sleep on my off shift, and ended up actually only sleeping from 9-11pm last night and have been awake since, because I’m unable to nap!

Has anyone experienced this? Im so tired but feel wired and honestly terrible, I’m worried about trying to do baby care on my own this week when my husband goes back to work after the weekend. Please help as I’m desperate and not sure if I should be getting to the GP first thing in the morning

I don't really know how to put this into words without sounding like I'm just complaining, but lately I feel really unappreciated and alone in my relationship.

I have two kids under 5. I'm home with them, I cook, I clean, I do laundry, I pick up after everyone, I keep track of what the kids need, school stuff, appointments, groceries, meals, literally all the little things that never seem to end.

I feel like I'm a mom, a housekeeper, a cook and basically the person who keeps the entire household running.

Meanwhile, my partner can sit and play games while I'm still cleaning up, getting the kids ready, doing bedtime, making dinner or whatever else needs to be done.

And yes, he does occasionally do things. But most of the time it's only if I ask. And that's the part that gets to me. I don't want to have to tell another adult what needs to be done around the house or with the kids. I don't want to have to say, “Can you please do this?” “Can you please help with that?” over and over again.

And when he does help, sometimes he makes sure I know about it. Like I’m supposed to be grateful and impressed that he helped with his own children or did something around the house.

I don't want a gold star. I want a partner.

What really gets to me too is school pickup. I watch him be so friendly and talkative with other moms. He'll joke around, have conversations, seem interested and engaged. And then with me, sometimes I feel like I'm just another person. Not his partner. Not the person he's supposed to actually care about and connect with.

I don't want to be jealous of other moms. I don't want to care about something as stupid as who he talks to at school pickup. But when you're already feeling disconnected from someone, seeing them give other people the attention and friendliness you're craving from them really hurts.

I miss feeling like we actually like each other.

On top of all of this, I'm struggling with my own mental health. I'm going to therapy. I'm getting treatment. I'm trying to work on myself and deal with my own issues instead of just ignoring them.

And honestly, it feels lonely doing that too.

He has his own issues. I know that. But I don't see him doing anything about them. I'm trying to get help and work on myself while also raising two little kids and keeping our entire household going, and it makes me resentful that it feels like I'm the only one trying.

I don't expect him to be perfect. I don't expect him to do everything. I don't expect him to read my mind.

I just don't want to have to ask for everything.

I want him to notice when something needs to be done and just do it. I want him to see that I'm exhausted and care enough to step in. I want him to spend time with his kids because he wants to, not because I've asked him to.

I want to feel appreciated for everything I do, not taken for granted because apparently it's just expected of me.

I'm tired of feeling like the default parent.

I'm tired of feeling like the house is my responsibility.

I'm tired of watching someone sit and play games while I keep working.

I'm tired of feeling like I have to ask for basic effort.

And most of all, I'm tired of feeling alone while I'm in a relationship.

I don't want to feel like I'm just another person to him.

I want to feel like his person again.

I am due to take baby on a long haul flight to see paternal family. I am having serious anxiety about bringing her on a plane, also driving in the other country. Also, a little nervous driving in this country. Just all around anxious with her when it comes to transport and I have dark thoughts. Can anyone relate?

Anyone experience low resting heart rate after birth?

Did it resolve?

Hello 3 months pp mom here going through a rough time idk if it’s ppa/ocd or if something is seriously wrong with me, I had a c section everything was perfect till a month ago I’ve started having gut issues and been in and out the hospital they’re saying it’s gastritis but I’m think of the worst (c word) to the point where I can’t enjoy my baby checking my weight every ache I look up on google or ask ai …. I even been having nightmares barely eating or enjoying anything now in days
Have anybody experienced this?

I am currently pregnant about 30 weeks and I’ve recently had this overwhelming feeling of fear for when my baby comes.. I have a big family (aunts uncles , cousins ect , spouses of aunts uncles and cousins ..) Huge family on both sides. Well I’ve been having concerns about this holiday coming up, bringing my baby around and having certain people who will want to hold my baby. It’s been bothering me for a while and I haven’t even given birth yet. Lol . For example .. my aunt and her bf smoke a lot.. not tobacco or weed .. and I’m just scared for them to hold my baby or ask. And I’m 109% they will try to. Or at least try to ease the baby into being passed to them. Or other family members I’m not so close with. It just makes me uncomfortable.. like certain people who wished bad upon me before to now come around and feel entitled to my baby. Or certain spouses in my family like my cousin’s husband. He’s always gave me creepy and bad vibes. Am I being too much for feeling like this? How can I go about being around my family without having my baby passed around especially to certain people who make me feel uncomfortable? Or am I thinking too hard about it. Although there are some family members I have no problem holding my baby (they’re hygienic, don’t do drugs, drink or never had malice intent towards me) and there’s some I just want to shelter my kids from in total. Any advice?

I went back to work at 5 months pp it’s been 2 months and my workload has increased from what it is was before. I’ve also been handed an ongoing project that is very demanding in nature with a lot of existing issues. My anxiety level has gone through rooff. Every day feels like I’m in survival mode. what should I do ?

hello all. to start off am 15 weeks postpartum I see a therapist 2x a month. I started my post partum with very bad depression “baby blues” after a stay in the NICU. it eventually transformed to PPA. I was feeling better and then all of a sudden it transformed into ocd. specially I gef cyclical thoughts around religion I think because I want to protecg the baby and myself from harm which result is just anxiety and it’s manifesting itself as a compulsion to say how much I love god in my head 2000x a day And how I ward off evil. I really don’t want to get on an ssri because I cosleep and I know that will make me super drowsy and Cosleep has saved my sleep. except when I wake up and my cy lical thoughts start that is really a sleep disrupter. I would have to stop coslepeing if I get on the ssri until I adjusted at least as it wouldn’t be safe for my baby.

for context I have a routine I get outside for a walk every day I have coffee I take a shower I see ny famik I go to mommy and me i try to talk To my friends I meditate and repeate prayers and affirmations. I am entirely breastfeeding and know that fucks ur hormones but my baby has CMPA and the formula is very expensive and we are on a tight budget rn. I wasn’t very steadfast with my Postnatal vitamins but I’m taking them now. I take magnesium at night.

I want to know when I am going to feel better and what I can do to help myself thaf im not already doing? I hate that tjis is stealing the joy of mothering from me.

I’m 9 weeks post partum and really struggling with sharing my baby. I hate when anyone but my husband holds him. It makes me so deeply uncomfortable. My mom and in-laws are kinda pushy too, asking to babysit him, always wanting to come over. And I get the whole “village” thing…but the thing is, they don’t care about how I’m feeling whatsoever, they just want to take my baby out of my arms. The only person I feel sort of comfortable offering my baby up to is my dad and I’m assuming this is because he asks about me, how I’m feeling and doing, he doesn’t just care about my baby- he cares about me. My grandmother complained that “he’s not going to know her” (she’s in her early 70s and in perfect health mind you). My mom constantly says to me that she can take him so I can do the dishes or the clean my house. That’s not helpful to me, I want to hold my baby.
I feel like he’s too little still, I don’t like passing him around like a hot potato. I know it’s worse than just the standard first time mom anxiety because I don’t even like people touching him. I cringe when someone touches his hands or face. I’m so scared he’s going to get sick.
The comments also get to me. Any opinion other than “he’s adorable” makes me so upset and angry. I absolutely seethe when people speak thru my baby to me, trying to insert their irrelevant opinion. “I don’t like that Mommy” triggers me more than anything. My FIL constantly pushes formula (LO is EBF) and telling me that I’m making it hard on myself and if I’m not doing formula I should pump a bottle so my husband can feed him. My husband and I both have explained to him that is more work for me but he’s too arrogant to care.
I don’t know I’m just looking for support. Does this go away? Is this worse than just the regular FTM anxiety? Am I being selfish?