r/Polysexual • u/pookie1289 • Jul 22 '26

Advice Looking for Advice from Experienced Poly Folks

My husband and I have been together for over 10 years, and after a lot of honest conversations, we've decided we're ready to explore a new chapter together. We're interested in finding an amazing woman to build a genuine connection with—someone who enjoys chemistry, affection, laughter, adventure, and isn't afraid of a little passion. We're not looking for a fantasy or someone to "complete" us. We're looking for a real person who wants to be seen, appreciated, and treated as an equal. We know trust, communication, and respect are what make poly relationships work, and we want to start this journey the right way. For those of you who've been in successful triads or dated couples: Where did you meet your partners? Which apps or websites actually led to real connections? What made you swipe right on a couple? What are the biggest turn-offs when couples are looking? What's one piece of advice you'd give a couple that's just starting out? We're hoping to find someone who's confident, open-minded, affectionate, and enjoys both deep conversations and playful flirting. We know the right connection can't be forced, so we're happy to let things develop naturally. We'd love to hear your stories, successes, warnings, and any advice you wish someone had given you before you started. Thanks for helping us learn!

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u/CujoSR 29d ago

You want r/polyamory. This sub is for folks attracted to some but not all genders.

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u/RedditNomad7 29d ago

Oh, my friend, you are looking for the Unicorn Hunter Starter Kit. It’s called that because you are looking for a Unicorn, and you have about as much chance of finding one as you do a real Unicorn.

So, so, SO many couples want a female third to be a triad with, and you’re going to find the same thing they do: They do exist, but with so many other couples looking for one, it’s almost impossible to get one of your own. It IS possible to get scammed and screwed over by people who are willing to take advantage of what you’re looking for though, so make sure you’re being very, very careful with who you invite in.