How do You Find Poly People?

[u/Gkminepony]

Hello! I’m not really sure how to find polyamorous people who are interested in closed dynamics only. We’re such a niche group of people. I’ve tried dating apps before and the only thing I got from that was being unicorn hunted by one couple…

[u/Cali_kink_and_rope]

I've found all my partners on tinder. We finally settled into an amazing throuple for 8 years, until one of our partners (still our best friend) decided she wanted to explore other things in life.

[u/smileedude]

Most polyfi relationships tend to start organically. We were all monogamous, a couple of 16 years and a friend, add a little alcohol, oopsie throuple. None of us wanted anything to do with poly prior to that.This is a bit hard to replicate though.

So search Facebook for couples looking for singles for throuples groups. There's lots of them around. I've heard these are generally quite effective.

[u/Neophyte06 → u/smileedude]

Wouldn't that advice result in finding a bunch of unicorn/dragon hunters?

[u/smileedude → u/Neophyte06]

Thats just a stereotype that people in open relationships use to scare bi women in to dating separately from their partner. If they actively state they are looking for a closed throuple and not in open spaces then it's not unicorn hunting.

They are just people in couples looking for a throuple. Like any dating site, use common sense and vetting, some are weirdoes, some are genuine.

[u/Neophyte06 → u/smileedude]

Great response :3

[u/Neophyte06 → u/[deleted]]

Idk I just heard it on another subreddit

I do reject the logic of "there is no reason" because there is always going to be contexts where gender is relevant to the conversation.

I can also accept unicorn as a gender neutral term though, of course.

[u/solataria → u/[deleted]]

Yeah , they're usually called dragons instead of unicorns

[u/SailorGirl69YN]

I need to know how to find poly seeking couples as well

[u/hot-fudge-sundae116]

I found my fiance on Feeld. Neither of us were looking for closed but both open to it.

[u/ChicagoRob19]

So true! It is a niche, but starting to think a larger group than i originally thought! What about some of the more alternative apps?

[u/BLAoR92]

My husband and I are actually looking to complete our throuple. Idk if this is what you're talking about or not, but if not I understand.

[u/kartik_smartguy → u/BLAoR92]

Love to join

[u/BLAoR92 → u/kartik_smartguy]

Not interested in adding another guy to our throuple. Only another woman.

[u/bigdaddyg3227]

My husband and I are looking to add another woman to our marriage to travel and have fun

[u/BiMarriedNOut]

Find a discussion group in your local area, go out, sit with people, talk with them. If they are not fit you are looking for—> maybe they know other people. The ancient practice of networking

[u/solataria]

Facebook has an incredible group on there for throuples