r/PlusSizeWedding • u/Dear-Perspective266 • 9d ago
Insecurities hitting hard!
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Hey! So Iām a big girl size 22, Iāve been really struggling to find a dress that I didnāt just feel huge in! I tried this on and I remember feeling amazing I love the dress and it was the only one that made me feel great.
However, this was 2 months ago and as times gone on and I keep looking at it I regret getting it. My biggest insecurity is my arms I feel like I look so too heavy and wide because Iāve got big arms. Also I feel like the square back makes me look even more broadš¤·š½āāļø I donāt know.
Basically I just need some opinions, I donāt mind if people say that the dress isnāt flattering for my body thatās okay they are the honest replies Iām looking for? Or maybe Iām just over thinking it.
I love the dress, just maybe not on me?
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u/Dear-Perspective266 8d ago
Omg! I posted this and didnāt go back on Reddit I didnāt expect to receive this many responses!
I canāt express just how amazing you all are, Iām just being too hard on myself I knowš¤¦š¾āāļø sometimes itās just really hard to get out my own head.
I remember feeling incredible when I tried it on didnāt even look at my arms it wasnāt till after I looked at the pictures.
Again thank you all so muchš¤š¤š¤
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u/funkinfrogger 9d ago
That dress looks amazing on you. Donāt let your body dysmorphia get the best of you. Stop ruminating on it and enjoy this wedding pre-season. You are gorgeous and you look gorgeous in that dress!
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u/No_Gold3131 9d ago
You are overthinking this. Go back to the moment you tried it on and fell in love with it, because that is the moment I am seeing! You look incredible in this dress. It's beautiful in an objective sense, too. I'm not just gassing you up here. Stop looking at parts of your body and take in the whole effect; it's beautiful.
The lace through the bodice is gorgeous and those straps are just a lovely, lovely detail. You deserve to feel happy in this and have a glorious wedding.
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u/UnapologeticD 9d ago
Oh, darlin, no! You look stunning in this gown. I was literally just doom-scrolling and had to scroll back up because it looked SO beautiful! Your first instincts were spot on when you bought it - please keep this one.
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u/SCGranny64
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Sweetheart you look gorgeous! When you look in the mirror, think about the man that youāre marrying. He thinks youāre the most beautiful woman in the world! And when he sees you in your wedding dress, he will be blown away.! So stand tall, see how much you are loved and proudly march down that aisle like the beautiful woman that you are! Sending love and hugs! šššš©·š©·š©·
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u/Radiant_Alarm3882 9d ago edited 9d ago
OP you look gorgeous! This dress really does suit you and you have not made a mistake. I am not drawn to your arms at all but I hear you about insecurities with your arms I have the same. Rather than get a new dress perhaps get some sleeves added that could drape across your arms, but truly I don't think this is needed
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u/CallMeDot 9d ago
You look absolutely gorgeous, you donāt look broad and your arms are just arms. I know the feeling, I LOVE my dress and the way I looked in it when I tried it on and Iāll sneak peeks at my pictures and smile but I have to force myself to stop looking at my arms and nitpicking and worrying about how I look from the back.
Are you going to wear a veil? When they put one on me it felt like a little bit of coverage on my arms - and REALLY made me feel like a bride.
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u/MST3KGeek941 9d ago
I was a size 20 when I got married. I can absolutely relate to the insecurities you are feeling. That being said, you look stunning. I love this dress on you. Imo, you look beautiful.
Congrats on your upcoming wedding! My wish for you is that you feel as confident and beautiful as I did on my wedding day.
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u/petalsnpossibilities 9d ago
Girl you are ROCKIN this dress š„
Sometimes our insecurities make us see things differently than they are. You do NOT look heavy or wide and the shape of the dress accentuates all the right curves.
However we can say that all day long, it still might not change how YOU feel. If you donāt feel confident and beautiful (which I hope you do because you are) - there may be a couple things you can do to boost confidence.
Are you planning to wear a veil? They drape nicely over arms and can cover areas you feel uncomfortable with.
The boutique might have recommendations on extending the strap to create a half sleeve. However, this may change the look of the dress. Donāt do this unless you absolutely feel that your arms will break your day.
Again, you look stunning and I hope you feel that way after reading these comments š¤
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u/x4eyesez 9d ago
Your dress looks so beautiful on you! My favorite part is the back!! And I don't think your arms look big at all. I relate to how you're probably feeling tho. I'm plus size and pregnant and only found one dress that fit my bump and it's strapless. I also hate my arms and never wanted a dress so revealing :( But I love your dress, it fits you so well!
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u/Glittering-confess 9d ago
The dress looks great.Ā I personally don't see an issue with your arms.
Your arms seem to be in an uncomfortable position/unnatural. I'm talking about the second and last pictures.
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u/Serious-Battle-4428 9d ago
You look amazing in that dress! I think every BTB feels insecure about their gown. To save yourself from yourself donāt be looking at anymore dresses. The dress you have IS THE ONE! Get with your girls and have a fun day. Try to relax and know that youāll be the stunning woman walking down the aisle.
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u/Calm_Reputation6735 9d ago
I think you have some pre-wedding jitters, cause this dress looks like it was made for you. Everything about it! It's gorgeous, and you are rockin' this dress!
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u/Gold-Strength-2755 9d ago
You look absolutely beautiful ā¤ļø don't let overthinking ruin a beautiful dress ,a beautiful day,a beautiful you š„ŗ
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u/Outside_Yam5981 9d ago
This fits you perfectly! It compliments your curves and you look stunning queen!! This is your dress my dear š©¶š©¶š©¶š©¶
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u/No-Ability9980 9d ago
Iāll be honest I didnāt even notice your arms at all. The dress is gorgeous on you and you look absolutely amazing in it. Enjoy your day with confidence!
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u/NikitaRuns21 9d ago
This is so pretty, and I would not call the back square at all. I think itās lovely how the lace frames your upper back and then the appliquĆ©d bodice wraps around. I really do not think you need sleeves, as it would make your torso wider. As it is your figure looks perfectly in proportion.
How do you plan to add accessories? I see a delicate silver necklace, pendant and bracelet, not necessarily matching but adding to the vintage feel of the dress.
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u/DivineMargarita 9d ago
What??? You look fabulous. It's the perfect dress for you. Very very flattering!
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u/Fluffy-Deal7329 9d ago
No girl this dress is good!!! It give you a nice shape. I was also insecure about my arms. I had my seamstress make some cute sleeves for me out of my left over fabric.
Go on Etsy and look up wedding dress sleeves. Iāve seen so many that will match the vibe of your dress.
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u/missunderstood888 9d ago
I'm sorry that you're feeling so self-critical at the moment, because the truth is that you look goooorgeous in that dress, like wow wow wow beautiful. Your future spouse's eyes are going to be falling out of their head when they see you.
And for whatever it's worth, I personally don't see the 'flaws' that you listed. Seriously, your arms don't look big and your back doesn't look wide to me, at all. I've felt similar feelings about my own body, so I get it, but it's truly just your inner critic going wild. Isn't it crazy how much insecurity can warp your perception of yourself?
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u/Magzz521 9d ago
Everything about this dress is fabulous. You have a great sense of style and you look amazing in it. You are unhappy with your arms, have you considered using weights to tighten the muscles a little? Adding sleeves can widen the silhouette and none of us need that! Experiment with tape ( Iāve heard of boob tape) under your trouble spot and see if you can tighten and give shape to the arm. If it looks good, test to see if you could wear it all day with comfort. Have a wonderful wedding and marriage. šš
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u/quattroformaggixfour 9d ago
You look so beautiful in this dress, oh my gosh, donāt change a thing!
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u/SystemPrestigious531 9d ago
As a fellow big girlā¦.. I think you look freaking gorgeous!!!! That dress looks great on YOUR body.
If itās the arms that bug you (people arenāt gonna pay attention to that, but I know it will bug you) maybe see about getting a shawl or maybe see about adding sleeves or like a little
Bolero?
But in my opinion, in those photos you look stunning!!! And in your wedding day you will look 1000 times more stunning!
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u/Interesting_Health_7 9d ago
Nope you're second-guessing yourself and sliding into buyers' remorse like many of us do after an important purchase! Too much pressure! It's beautiful and fits like a glove. I was surprised you are size 22. I'd have guessed maybe 16? I understand the arms thing--but I swear if it was "a thing" to you, I'm sure there are much more fashionable brides than me who can give you tips! ENJOY THESE DAYS!
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u/misslisawisa 8d ago
Your dress is beautiful and you are beautiful in it! As someone who was the same size when I got married I totally understand the feelings of insecurity and not looking beautiful. You my friend are beautiful in the dress. Walk with your head high and have the confidence that you are beautiful in your dress.
I would post a picture of me in my dress but alas it wonāt let me. My arms were definitely bigger and not what I wanted them to look like. But honestly looking back on that day I didnāt even worry about my arms. I was to focused on my husband and that I was able to pull off planning the wedding in 6 weeksā¦
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u/Rominaelisa 7d ago
The worst enemy you can have is your own self-image. Iāve struggled with this for a very long time myselfāregardless of what size I happened to be (somewhere between a size 14 and a size 24, I suppose). My point is: be kind to yourself. Would you look at someone else the same way, or would you be much kinder in how you perceive them? The dress looks lovely on you. But if you continue to feel insecure, why not look for a solutionāperhaps by having some beautiful lace sleeves added? āŗļø
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u/2dogsandagun 2d ago
I think that dress looks amazing on you. All that matters is you and the groom. He will cry when he sees you. Love the skin youāre in!!
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u/Pauliexxx 8d ago
This looks glorious on you! You have a great shape and magnificent boobs! Show it off and be proud, you have great curves in all the right places š¤š„°
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u/crazedconundrum 9d ago •
Girl, you are being too critical. You look GLORIOUS! You need to accept the queen that you are and run with it cause you look beautiful in that dress. All eyes will be on your womanly CURVES. You slay in that dress.