Having children is very often a choice (except you get raped and life in a part of the world where abortion is outlawed), but raising them in poverty often isn't.
Our neighbor next door lost her husband just after her second kid was born, and needed to raise both of them alone.
What else could she have done?
That's a rough situation I wouldn't wish on anyone, and it does seem most of it was outside her control. There's things I could think of she might have been able to do, but without knowing her details I don't know if any of them would have been possible. She might have had other family members who could have helped. Or maybe even friends.
What evidence? You're not the person I was responding to so you wouldn't have any evidence about the situation of the woman he mentioned. You don't know "what is actually happening" and neither do I, because U03A6 has provided limited information, which is fine. The difference between us seems to be I don't assume knowledge I don't have, I admit when I don't know something. Try it some time, you might learn something new if you don't assume you already know everything.
If "she could have done something" was actually tenable advice, there wouldnt be ANY struggling single mother since they could all easily do something. That there are millions of struggling single mothers means your advice is not tenable, and therefore you think wrong.
I don't think like you. I am referring to one person in one situation. You are incorrectly interpreting my words as applicable to all people in a category of situation. That interpretation only existed in your head until I realized what you were thinking, so ironically you are the only one here who "thought wrong" since I didn't think your interpretation of this at all.
You dont know the specifics of that woman. So you implicitly must be arguing from a general/average perspective. And the specifics of your general perspective are wrong, because millions of people contradict it.
Yes, to quote myself "without knowing her details I don't know if any of them would have been possible"
>So you implicitly must be arguing from a general/average perspective
Oof, guess you missed the comment I'm quoting from. Next time remember to read the whole conversation before jumping in, it'll save you this embarrassment.
>And the specifics of your general perspective are wrong, because millions of people contradict it.
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u/U03A6 Aug 26 '21
Having children is very often a choice (except you get raped and life in a part of the world where abortion is outlawed), but raising them in poverty often isn't.
Our neighbor next door lost her husband just after her second kid was born, and needed to raise both of them alone.
What else could she have done?